To think that it is really bad manners to take an ill child to visit a baby....?

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Friends of ours came to visit 3 weeks ago (they live 10 mins away) and my poor DS has only just recovered from the lurgy they brought with them.
Their kid was full of the cold, streaming eyes and nose, cheeks and nose bright red and coughing like a good 'un.
We have had a nightmare 3 weeks of sleepless nights, having to change beds every day due to all the sick caused by coughing and I am exhausted. Not only that but I then got ill, then DH.
So my point is AIBU to think they should have cancelled; would you take your sick kid to visit a baby?

You know the answer to this.... of course it is unreasonable to inflict an illness on a family when the child was obviously ill.

How many dc's do you have? I used to think this with me pfb but now she's older I realise that they almost ALWAYS have some bug over the autumn/winter/spring and it's impossible not to go out.
I feel bad for your sleep loss though.

Yanbu

I think you may be being a tiny bit precious, but I think they should have rung and offered you the chance to cancel

but I would have told them to come anyway, personally - colds are about, we all catch them

YANBU

Why people are not more considerate is beyond me. Eejits. Before Christmas, I had 2 friends coming to visit with their babies. We had it planned for ages and were all looking foward to meeting up. DS1's nursery had suspected SF outbreak. DS1 wasnt even displaying any symptoms, it wasnt even a confirmed case, but nonetheless, I hated the thought that he could be contagious and did not want a 6 week and 6 month old babies put at risk. We did the sensible thing and cancelled.

YADefNBU

And YADefNBPFB!

Not just bad manners, also a bad idea. Also not an enjoyable visit when your friends have been at your house awhile before they let you know 2 of their kids have a tummy bug. Which your DS and you of course catch. Hard to see a baby sick. Hope your DS doing fine now.

Greensleeves, your comment:"I think you may be being a tiny bit precious..." is utterly ridiculous!
OP is NBU the slightest and the person bringing the sick child to visit was an idiot. Anyone willfully inflicting their viruses on others should be burned at stake! Yes we all catch them at times but that is not an excuse to knowingly infect others if it can be easily avoided.

I don't think you're being unreasonable.

I also don't understand why parents take their ill children out. Not the ones with a bit of a sniffle, but who have fevers etc and obviously feel like shite.
I don't want to go out when I'm ill, why would my child?

Weird.

Thank you rollmops But I do see the point about being a bit precious, but really my poor DS has been so ill this year with one thing after another and he was just coming right and starting to gain weight again and then bam! another illness.

I on the other hand haven't been out for 3 weeks, missed all our baby groups, swimming sessions, coffee catch ups for fear of someone else going through what we had to. I think that is responsible.

I know you can't protect them from everything but I would have thought if you had a chance to avoid it, you would!

(Yes DS is first babba owl)

Yes I agree heywood he was miserable all day and was obviously just wanting his bed and some calpol.
What do you say though when they turn up at the house...is there a polite way of saying please feck off and take your germs home?!

Actually OP, yes, that is exactly what I would say. If they are rude enough to turn up with such an ill child, I would absolutely not be a hospitable host.

YANBU

Very rude behaviour

EXTREMELY BAD.

lol mistletoekisses I wish I were able to do that! There's so much I would love to say, but instead we bite our lips and say nothing...
Postman, stop driving so fast down our drive you fecking eejit, you might run over the poor dog. There, i said it!
Ha!

YANBU - my sis is a bit like this, takes her DDs around when they're full of cold/ bugs. My parents spent one winter being permanently full of cold themselves because they looked after her DDs 2 days a week - the DDs caught colds, gave them to my parents, who recycled them back again and so on. IF my sis had kept them away for perhaps 2 weeks, it would have given them a chance (all of them!) to get clear of the damn lurgy.

I (PFB, probably) wouldn't let her bring her DDs near me when DS was born until they were free of lurgy. Took about 3 weeks, iirc.