The dreaded HV

[tillywee]

AIBU about our HV, she has been over today to see DD2 for 1 year check.

Where to start really...full of criticism from how many teeth she has, the fact that she is not walking.

Also apparently she isn't saying enough words! what is that about? DD2 is 13mths old...since when were they supposed to talk at that age?

Her weight was another one...DD2 is much bigger than my other DC's at that age, can't see what she is on about....DS1 was in the wrong size clothes for his age for a long time.

AIBU to not want someone who makes me feel like a shit mum back in our house

My dd didn't have teeth until 18mths, all 3 were underweight, HV said said I would not be able to bf dc3 because I had a toddler who would destroy all humanity the moment he was latched on...stopped weighing them, (having probs re:weight & dc3 with school nurse now) and didn't see HV again...great!

Lol...seems you can do nothing right where hv are concerned

My son didn't walk until 20 months and even then he could only about two steps until two and half years old. My son had a child physio who told me that if a child can sit by two they will walk by four.

I have a good health visitor, but I think a lot of it is luck. With my son I had severe postnatal depression. I had a listening visit from a health visitor who had also had postnatal depression. It ended up with me doing all the listening to HER problems.

It's one of those professions isn't it? I've had some cracking good HVs in my time. Then again the best one I've ever had was quite uninformed about BF and weaning. Swings and roundabouts I suppose.

I've also just remembered that when I first became concerned about my son's lack of eye-contact it was completely dismissed by the HV who did his two-year check.

I didn't think anything of the fact that one of her eyes was severely veering off to one side. Now I remember I wonder if I shouldn't have sought a second opinion on that sooner, but she was so good in every other respect it didn't occur to me and I don't know if that would have affected her judgement anyway.