To take my car when I leave?

[BartsMum]

I have posted this in another thread but this one is just focussed on the car. Basically Im leaving my partner in two weeks. The car is mine. The loan which is paying for it is in my name. I am the registered keeper and owner. But presently DP uses the car for work and cannot get to work without it.
When I leave, I do not want to leave the car. I need it. But he will argue that I'm costing him his job by taking it and leaving him with no way of getting to work.

AIBU to take the car and say "its not my problem you can't get to work" ??

Oh Im on the other thread too but just want to reitterate. Take the car.

its an unecessary tie to him that you dont need.

I saw your other thread, TAKE THE CAR... its yours, could he not get a loan and buy his own car?

Is the loan only in your name, but both of you pay towards it, or are you paying for it on your own?
Is there any possible compromise? Could you give him at least some time to find a car to replace yours?

Well legally you'd be an idiot to not take it so of course you should take it.

But it's a bit 'cold' if its not acrimonious- tell him in advance to sort himself out/offer to run him yourself for the first couple of weeks?

Not seen your other thread but yanbu. Take your car; if it's in your name you have a legal right to it. There is a contraption known as a bus, familiar to most of the working population. Encourage him to become familiar. Going to look at your other thread now...

I saw your other thread too, and have no idea what to suggest re the furniture, but yes, take the car.

"There is a contraption known as a bus, familiar to most of the working population. Encourage him to become familiar."

You don't know what the public transport is like where they live and he works. I have to either take a day off or get a hire car when my car is broken (like today) to get to work, as it's pretty much impossible to get to work by public transport.

I haven't seen the other thread btw, so don't know what the causes for the breakup. Wonder though why anyone would hang about for another 2 weeks once their mind is made up.

Because the house Im moving into isnt ready for another two weeks.

The loan is purely in my name but we've both been paying it off, have both paid insurance for it, MOTs, repairs etc but the loan isn't finished paying for so I'll still be paying for it after I leave. I WOULD begrudge doing that if I didn't even have the car.

Public transport is shite here though, 1 bus to his work every 2 hours.

Oh, hang on... he's paid for the loan?

Then It depends how much he's paid. If he's paid half then morally I think what is fair and reasonable is to work out the current value of the car, minus anything you still owe on it and give him half of that to buy a new car.

Oh, hang on... he's paid for the loan?

Then It depends how much he's paid. If he's paid half then morally I think what is fair and reasonable is to work out the current value of the car, minus anything you still owe on it and give him half of that to buy a new car.

does he know you are leaving in two weeks?
I would let him know that you are taking the car, so he has the chance to make other arrangements.

You could also offer him the chance to pay the loan off and keep the car.

Agree with foureleven - if he too is paying for the car/MOT/insurance then you need to compensate him. Or maybe he can pay you for the car?

I think legally, if he has paid towards the car you are not entitled to just take it away. I guess you would need to financially compensate him for what he has paid towards it or sell it and split the proceeds......

On your other thread I said take the car, but didn't know he was paying towards it.

I certainly wouldn't leave it as the loan, etc, is in your name but you'll have to work out some sort of compromise.

How much has he paid towrad the car so far?

No, I want the car. I don't want to sell it, I have two children and also work.

He has only paid around £200 towards it, there is still thousands left to pay and all that is in my name.

I think a rental car would cost about £200 for 2 weeks, so could you suggest you leave it with him for 2 weeks while he finds a new one?

Are you on speaking terms at the mo? Is he likely to be unreasonable about it?

Dont give him back what he has paid in to the car as its value will have depreciated. find out what it is worth now and calculate pro rata.

So he has two weeks in which to buy himself another car.

Give him his £200 back and leave him to it. He's a grown up too.

He can't get credit which is why I know he'll kick off about the car, because it will be difficult for him to get another one. He has no savings either and doesn't earn enough to go and buy one anytime soon. I have no trouble getting credit and do have savings but its HIS fault he has no savings etc and its HIS fault he can't get credit so I'm reluctant to feel too sorry for him. It's all his own doing.

Last time we did discuss working out the cost of things in the house and splitting value etc etc but this never included the car. Neither of us have spoken of it because he knows full well I won't leave it and is frightened to death of what he'll do without a car.

Thing is, I just cannot take thousands of pounds worth of debt with me and leave him the car, its just not fair on me to be paying for something I don't even have access to, its silly. He certainly wouldn't do that for me if it was the other way around.

He can be unreasonable, especially when it comes to money and material objects, he cares more about that than about me leaving him tbh. He wouldn't care if I left with absolutely nothing, as long as he was ok.

If everything is in your name then of course you should take the car, if he has been using the car a lot for work then he should have payed something towards it for being allowed to use it, as long as you aren't expecting him to still contribute to it (which I'm sure you don't) then YANBU.

*paid