AIBU for not having a birthday party for my soon to be one year old?

[Gin4495]

My daughter is soon to be one and we are not having a party. All her 'friends' seem to be, so I feel a little bad. We are going to the zoo instead

What do you think?

that sounds fine. a party at that age is really only for the parents _ if you feel bad, buy a little cake and invite the grandparents/close family etc for a slice and to sing happy birthday. but YANBU x

Parties for a one year old are really all about the parents. Have a lovely day at the zoo.

That's what I'm going to do.....well I'm making a cake but no big party. It's a bit of a waste I think but others don't seem to think so.

I think it sounds perfect. Your DD will much prefer the zoo!

That's actually more than we did! For my DS's first birthday, we had some family round (they'd driven up from Cornwall especially to see him) and that was it. Even that overwhelmed him a little.

First birthday parties with other 1y/os and balloons and lots of presents/expense are only ever going to benefit the ego of the parents anyway. My DS will never remember his first birthday. He won't (probably) remember his second. Why get them all stressed out over it when you don't have to?

A day at the zoo sounds wonderful. take some pictures, and in eighteen years' time it will look just as special. More so, in fact, because you won't have loads of pictures of other children you never see any more as well! (thinking back to picrtures of myself as a baby here!)

YANBU. I had a little tea party for DS1's 1st birthday. Seemed a bit too much inviting babies who didn't understand what the occassion was anyway. But, each to their own though.

Well let them think what they like. A one year old isn't going to remember anyway.

My DS had his first party just this year aged 4 so no YANBU. Parties much earlier than this are for the parents not the child IMO so unless you particularly enjoy hosting kids parties, save yourself the hassle & cash until they actually start realising they're missing out

Some people enjoy throwing a party, some people dont. Don't think it affects the kids either way.
I loved my dd's 1st bday party. we really did have loads of people come and quite a big do. But we really like throwing parties and social occasions. DD just enjoyed having loads of attention as she's a drama queen! Also, we didnt have her christened or likewise, so certain family members were waiting for some kind of celebration for her i think!
I always think it's ashame when people say 'oh we're not doing anything at all. they dont know the difference' but taking her to the zoo sounds like a lovely day for you all. Just do what suits your family

for dd's 1st bday we got stuck in traffic for 6 hours - i think you're spoiling her

yanbu!!!! I was still too shell shocked to even consider a 1st b day, have a lovely day and save for when she will appreciate it

yanbu the zoo is fine! that sounds great and better than a party, small babies and toddlers dont really enjoy very big parties ime
even for 2nd bday we are not doing a party, would rather take him out for the day and just have a cake and some presents @ home with family, they will enjoy it more. when ive done big parties (for other occasion not bday) my 1 yr old finds it a bit much, so dont feel bad @ all, absolutely no need to make a party just for others peoples benefit so u can be seen to be having one

YANBU do what you enjoy

YANBU

Eldest's first birthday we had a meal in a restaurant which was mainly because we don't get to see most of the family very often. Second birthday was in a nature centre (excuse to get the half-brothers around). Third was a party in a pub function room (was free so just gave them some space to run around). For the fourth we're having the same room (again 3rd and 4th were an excuse to get the half brothers here)

Youngest didn't even get a card or present from us for first. Birthday is close to Christmas and we did buy loads for Christmas. We just didn't have time and money to do much, but our children don't go without so we didn't feel like we'd neglected the birthday.

YANBU. DD is having a party this year, for her third birthday, but it's the first time we've had more than a quiet birthday tea at home. Parties at that age are for the parents (which is fine, it can be fun) but you're not letting anyone down by not having one.

I am doing it this year because my DD is now very much aware that her little friends have all had parties, because she has been to them, and talks about what might happen at hers...

Of course YANBU.

My parents came over, we went to the park, had tea & cake at some point.

PFB slept for most of it!

yanbu... ds (pfb)had a big do, hired a hall and everything, complete disater with big kids running around every where popping his balloons!

for dd i hired the sensory room at sure start and invited the babies from breastfeeding group and had the group in there instead followed by cake, was much better...