Friend having a dig over name of DD

[latoyota]

For a while I have felt that this friend has been making digs about various things so am I just being sensitive or is it just another dig. A few weeks after naming my new DD quite an unusual name she couldn't wait to tell me that another friend (who I don't know) has named the baby exactly the same name, first name and middle! and then a few weeks later told me about a neighbour who had done the same. If it were me I would keep it to myself. AIBU to think she was having a dig. I suppose you have to know the situation in full but thoughts please. Would you tell someone that?

oh, go on, tell us your DDs name, we will all either coo and say wow, how gorgeous and unusual, or, delight in telling you how many people we know with the same first and second names...

Actually, really thinking about it, its a mighty co-incidence that one woman should know 3 women with babies of similar age, all with the same first and middle names, unusual not..

Having given it some thought - possibly far too much I would be inclined to think she is making it up. Clearly i dont know statistics on such things, or the names however that said, it all still seems very strange.

Ditch the witch.

YANBU.

susiecutie I don't think it would be unusual for one woman to know three babis with the same name at all. It depends on how many people she mixes with. If she works, goes to playgroups, has a DC in school, has friends and does other activities, thats a lot of people she will know.

However if she has just got Latoyota for a friend and doesn't go out then its less likely.

Ineedsomesleep its not the knowing 3 babies with the same first name, but that they have the same first AND second names, one or both of which are stated to be unusual. OF course you can know more than one person with the same 1st name for their babies, but for both? Do you really think this is common?
IMHO i dont...

my friend gave her DD an unusual name in her opinion, the lady next door has a grandaughter the same age as my DD2 with exactly the same first AND second name as friend's DD - its not that unusual, unlucky maybe but unusual, no

we thought we had picked a more unusual name for DD2 - I now know of 3

OP if she upsets you and you believe it to be intentional then either ignore her or stop spending time with her

its hard to say when Latoyota won't tell us the name. My SIL thought that Rueben was very unusual when she was having her DS, they are two a penny around here.

For it to be an intentional dig, she would need to know how important it is to the OP to think that her chosen name is an unusual one. Lots of people wouldn't care either way, so it depends on whether the OP had made that clear.

It really does depend on how unusual the first and second names are - and on if you think that she was just making it up to 'bring you off your pedestal' a bit, then you should not be friends any more, it's not worth it.

If, otoh, she genuinely does know 2 other babies with the same name - well, I'd have probably told you too! Perhaps a bit thoughtless but not malicious.