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To have let dd stay up to watch BGT

21 replies

islandofsodor · 05/06/2010 21:45

I've let dd aged 8 stay up to watch BGT. Mil has just come back from sil's house where dneice (same age) was upset because sil didn't allow dneice to watch it, she had to go to bed at 7.30pm.

Dd has actually gone to bed now and I will her the result in the morning, a good compromise surely especially on a non school night.

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Clary · 05/06/2010 21:47

My 8yo is never in bed at 7.30pm.

FGS Brownies doesn't finish till then and Cubs is 8pm! And they are on school nights!!

If she was OK to stay up (ie not falling asleep) then IMO it was fine. My DSs (almost 11 and not long 7) often stay up till 8.30pm watching the first half of a footie match.

SparklyGothKat · 05/06/2010 21:50

My dd2 is still up watching BGT with me, she is 8, my Ds1 and Dd1 have crashed out already. She wanted to see the results.

MrsRhettButler · 05/06/2010 21:53

dd is four and is never in bed at 7:30 on a saturday!!

in fact she was at the pub i work at last tuesday with me until gone nine... (they were having a food night) and anyway its the holidays!!!

MoreCrackThanHarlem · 05/06/2010 21:53

My dd, who is 9, is still up watching

she goes to bed at 8.30 on a school night, but is allowed to stay up til 10 or 11 in the holidays and at weekends
unless we have an engagement early next day

7.30 is excessively early imo

MoreCrackThanHarlem · 05/06/2010 21:55

In fact, dd is still playing in the garden with her friends at 9 in this gorgeous weather

putting them to bed whilst the sun shines and other children are playing in the fresh air is just plain mean

Tortoise · 05/06/2010 21:58

I let 10yr old and 13 yr old DS's stay up. They have seen the winner so now time for bed!!

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islandofsodor · 05/06/2010 22:10

Dneice still seems to have the same bath/bed routine that she had as a toddler.

She was round here earlier having fun in the garden with my two but then had to go home so that she could get her teqa on time so she could be ready for her bath at 6pm

Dd's bedtime on a school night is 7.30pm but she always seems ready and needs that amount of sleep. I let ds who is younger play for a If she is tired sha asks to go to bed

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mumbar · 05/06/2010 22:20

IMO YANBU I let ds 5 stay up to watch over the rainbow, x factor, bgt, ice dance etc on a saturady if he asks. He will usually fall asleep when on if he's tired and if not and I'm really lucky lie in the next day!!!

I beleive as well its a good lesson for children to see others following their dreams, having ambition etc.

Clary · 05/06/2010 22:38

I'm impressed with anyone who gets a 8yo into bed by 7.30pm. DD's schedule as I say includes Brownies till 7.30pm one night, Cubs till 8pm another, dance till 6.15 another and dinner has to be afterwards cause it starts 4pm, and fetching DS1 from Beavers at 7pm another night!

Mind you I do know two sisters, aged maybe 8 and 6, who go to bed 7pm. I'm guessing the older one doesn't do Brownies.

Manda25 · 06/06/2010 12:34

I feel like i have been told off !!! My 7 (8 in October) year old son goes to bed at 7pm to read and lights off at 7.30pm - is it really too early?? We are up at 7am and sometimes he struggles to get up. All his out of school activities allow him to be in bed early.

However i have let him stay up all week for BGT and he watched all the finial last night.

Maybe i should re think his bed time ....what time is acceptable ??

mummyofexcitedprincesses · 06/06/2010 12:50

Only you know how much sleep your child needs. DD1 (8) must get her 12 hours or we all suffer. DD2 (7)can get away with 8 hours but we try to get her to keep the same hours as her sister.

On weekends and holidays we are very relaxed and they choose their bedtimes, usually asking to go to bed between 9 and 10, meaning a nice lie-in in the morning.

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islandofsodor · 06/06/2010 15:25

Its whatever works for you. We too have to be up at 7am and dd would struggle with a lter bedtime. I know it is very early though compared to others in her class but then again they mostly live a lot closer to school, we have to be out of the house by 8am.

During school holidays we are a lot more relaxed but sil still insists on the regular bedtime for dneice.

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jellybeans · 06/06/2010 15:27

YANBU Mine stayed up, it's no big deal!

swordinthestone · 06/06/2010 15:30

I let my just 4yo watch it. He got up half an hour later today, but has been fine to go swimming and out for lunch. Poeple need to calm down a bit!

WellMeantHellBent · 06/06/2010 15:30

I was sent to bed at 7.30 until I was at secondary school and then my bed time was 9pm ! I hated it and regularly had friends coming round to play while I was in my jammies (I had to change into a t-shirt and shout out the window I had been grounded so they didn't laugh at me)

MoreCrackThanHarlem · 06/06/2010 15:43

'I feel like i have been told off !!! My 7 (8 in October) year old son goes to bed at 7pm to read and lights off at 7.30pm - is it really too early??'

No- you know your child best
my dd needs 10 hours on a school night, others need more, some need less

holidays are a different story though
what makes them so enjoyable is a break from routine

I realise younger children need a regular bedtime
but putting an 8yo to bed at 7 on a glorious summer evening in the holidays smacks of over reliance on routine imho

Clary · 07/06/2010 00:56

Manda no 7pm not too early for yr DS if that suits him and you!

My 7yo DS is in bed much later because he has older siblings and their activities often drag his bedtime out (if for example only one parent is home and we all have to go collect from Cubs etc).

Also he himself does stuff till 7pm eg Beavers, goalkeeper coaching etc.

But that's not saying you are wrong! When DS1 started at Beavers I remember inwardly gasping at the late finish time (not so much by the time we got to DS2 tho )

Firawla · 07/06/2010 01:04

yanbu, especially on a weekend what harm is it to let them stay up a bit later
if children need more sleep though an early bedtime is fine, the mum will know if they need that sleep but to be flexible now and again is only fair rather than rigidly never allow them later than 7pm once they are getting older in school age.

Pattertwig · 07/06/2010 01:09

DS is nearly 8 and goes to bed at 7 on Monday and Tuesday, 7 30 on Wednesday and Thursday and 8pm on Friday and Saturday. He can't cope with anything later than that unless it's a special occassion and I keep to that through the (short) holidays too otherwise he becomes a horridd child and I can not cope with him on my own when he behaves like that.

Summer will probably be 7 30/8 and occasionally later, but only if he can cope with it.

I'm not reliant on that routine - it's just he needs a lot of sleep or else he becomes over-emotional and really, really stroppy.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 07/06/2010 07:48

YANBU, but you've made me think that maybe I am. Our dd (9.1) goes to bed at 7.30, reads for half and hour then lights out at 8. If she doesn't get at least 11 hours she is foul. She needs to be up at 6.45 to get ready for school and if she hasn't had enough sleep she really is a monster.

LIZS · 07/06/2010 08:47

dd stayed up to watch it and often doesnlt go to bed until 9 or 9.30 at weekends/holidays when she can sleep in the next day. Even on a week night it is usually 8pm at earliest.

Some people enjoy a rigid routine but for others it can become a habit that is hard to break, just in case it wreaks things longer term, as it gives a sense of security. So yanbu but nor is she !

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