weekend working

[florencerusty]

DH is a college lecturer and I am a SAHM to a toddler, we have grown children too. (2 each)

Previously he was SE mobile mechanic and has continued with one long term customer despite his other job. The arrangement was to work every other saturday - today, last sunday and the saturday before doesnt feel like every other

I have again gotten so wound up about it today that when he finally arrived home at 6.30 I am steaming. I wont row so things are now very quiet

It seems weekends are no different to weekdays - most of which DD and I spend at home (various reasons)

We've not eaten and the air is thick.

He doesnt especially want to work weekends but financially it helps and he feels a bit obliged to the customer.

arghhhhhh just a whinge.

Oh and should add that it helps financially to survive - not to provide any luxeries

Sadly if you need the money, you have to work.

Between dp and I, we work near 100 hours a week and still struggle to pay the bills. We have no choice but to work weekends .

Also, getting hone at 6.30 - that would be a dream for us. The opportunity to eat together at all would be a delight.

Sorry, not meaning to belittle your situation but sounds not half bad to me.

I realise it could be much worse but life has thrown lots of shit at us and we both know how precious family time is.

I am harbouring resentment

We have to schedule one weekend day so it's clear for family time. Not always easy but that one day can feel like bliss even if we aren't doing much. Looks like dh will be looking for extra job soon due to reduced hrs at regular job & I already have 2 jobs plus studying, unfortunately struggling financially (and we are hardly living it up at the moment). Sometimes the bank account has to come first.

Can you arrange a night out for yourself and some friends florencerusty? Your DH is obviously wanting to earn that extra money to make sure you're ok financially but this means you are left with your toddler on the days when you should be a family. Hard work.

Try not to be too hard on him, but arrange something that you can do with friends so you have a break from your toddler too.