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Original poster

to think that unless you have been around for years, or have the time to post regularly....

32 replies

catinboots · 05/06/2010 18:40

you are going to be called a TROLL.

I have been a member since just before christmas. I come on most days and flit over my favourite boards, occasionally piping up here and there. I enjoy MN very much.

However, on two seperate occasions when I have started a thread I have been accused of being a troll. The second incident regarded a very upsetting matter and I was totally ripped to shreds by many of the regulars.

AIBU to think it's not worth posting for support/advice if the subject is 'unusual' and you are not a full-time/hardcore MNer???

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toccatanfudge · 05/06/2010 18:41

well I had recently flounced, and re-registered, and virtually no-one knew who I was.........and I posted about something totally off the wall...........but got loads of advice.........

JackBauer · 05/06/2010 18:43

Oh dear, it has been a bad day for you, have been out and just caught up on it all.

I think you just have to rise above it tbh, I have been called troll on threads where I have namechanged as it is somethign personal, and I have stories that would have people shouting troll from teh rooftops, but that's just what happens. fwiw there are a lot of people supporting you so I would just try and rise above it and accept that this is not as good week to post about something 'unusual'

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 05/06/2010 18:45

YANBU but posting several threads about it aren't going to help.

I have been ripped to shreads, though never called a troll, and I do know how it can hurt and upset but then it usually is a good idea to take a mn break.

DuelingFanjo · 05/06/2010 18:50

I think you need to just get stuck in and try to get over the fact that some people thought you were a troll.

Don't forget that right now Mumsnet boards seem to be suffering from a huge amount of trolling. I personally think there's some kind of childish invasion going on.

Just grit your teeth and keep going, starting threads after thread about it really isn't going to help.

Original poster
catinboots · 05/06/2010 18:54

'Tis but a genuine question though! Not just an uppity thread about another thread. Unless I am a very regular poster, is it ever really worth people like me seeking advice on here??

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TheJollyPirate · 05/06/2010 18:57

catinboots - you are going through a dreadful time at the moment as I saw from the earlier stalker thread. My advice is to rise above the "troll" calls now - you made your point perfectly well and if anyone now chooses to doubt you then that is their problem and not yours. YOU have more than enough to be worrying about without taking this on board too. I agree that people are too quick to call troll now - I personally give most people the benefit of the doubt and don't think I've ever called troll on anyone apart from when the troll in question had already been outed.

Don't let this get you down and keep us updated about the stalker thing as that sounds very worrying - hope the police are taking this seriously.

sameoldshit · 05/06/2010 18:58

Maybe the so called regular posters who like to shout TROLL at every name they don't immediately recognise, should piss off and let the rest of us get on with giving and receiving support and advice.

They could start their own forum or group, any suggestions for names . . .

TheJollyPirate · 05/06/2010 19:00

Sorry if I sounded abrupt on my post cat - didn't intend to but just read it back and thought it sounded too curt.

What I meant to say is that the troll calls have already got you down at a time when it's the last thing you need. Honestly try and put it out of your mind if you can so that you conserve your energy for this person who is causing problems for you and your family.

toccatanfudge · 05/06/2010 19:01

"Unless I am a very regular poster, is it ever really worth people like me seeking advice on here??"

as I said - I came back with a new name, and just a few weeks later, not many people knew who I was I started a thread that could easily been seen as trolling. People were fine

AnnaSergeyevna · 05/06/2010 19:05

I'm not sure what triggers it, but I name change regularly and have never been called a troll (yet...)

greenfly · 05/06/2010 19:14

I've never been called a troll either so there must be something about you. Having read some of your threads I don't think you are a troll in the strict sense of the word but you are attention-seeking and seem to massively overreact any time you are challenged.

booyhoo · 05/06/2010 19:15

i understand you are a bit miffed about the way you were treated on your original thread but i think posting several new threads about it is a wee bit OTT. if you are taht pissed of about it then you are letting MN have too much space in your head.

forget about it, it happened, we all know now that you are not a troll. move on. it happened to me when i first posted (under a different name) i accepted it as par for the course because i was new.

diamondsandtiaras · 05/06/2010 19:18

I think the troll trigger happens when others can't imagine the scenario you're describing actually happening tbh.........it's something they have no experience of or is out of their sphere of understanding. I do agree that sometimes some posters can come accross as being incredibly judgemental. I've been lurking on MN for a few months and name changed recently........everyone has always been nice to me but then I haven't posted anything controversial yet

I can't help thinking that if someone really does think a post is a troll they could just ignore it rather than being rude tbh..........

mumto2andnomore · 05/06/2010 19:21

Ive not been around for years and I dont post that often but Ive never been called a troll. Think you need to move on really, dont stress about it too much.

AlCrowley · 05/06/2010 19:38

I think it's down to it being half term. We tend to get a lot more trolls and a lot more troll accusations in the holidays.

ArsMamatoria · 05/06/2010 22:02

I was thinking about this today, looking at the 'let's pretend we're trolls' thread in chat. My first MN post - in chat - included details of my horrible situation so I bet loads of people thought I was a troll Posted later in bereavement and everyone was really supportive. Yesterday's thread really put me off starting a thread in chat though. Shame, really, as it tends to be when you're at your wits end that you pluck up the courage to post and chat tends to be one of the busiest places.

bibbitybobbityhat · 05/06/2010 22:08

Its a shame you haven't had any sort of apology from the people who accused you so emphatically in person, but I doubt you will.

However, best not to start a fourth thread about it. There are quite a lot of people who do believe you, more than the naysayers, II'd say, so try not to piss them off by ignoring them and focusing entirely on the other lot.

OrmRenewed · 05/06/2010 22:11

Perhaps you could start a few threads about ordinary stuff - the kind of banal things that most people experience. It will give you a bit of MN ballast to keep you upright when things get a bit rocky.

LordPanofthePeaks · 05/06/2010 22:17

oh it's tricky isn't it? I don't post so much but hardly ever start a thread so I am not in the line of fire of so many Miss MArples.

I'd suggest you just get on with posting and perhaps just say 'not a troll' once and ignore the accusations or quieries. You will not be able ot satisfy other posters' boredom thresholds.

poshsinglemum · 05/06/2010 22:28

I find that if some mn take a dislike to me or whatever I get a certain type of response. Name changing keeps things fresh and prevents (un)popularity bias.

Osama · 05/06/2010 22:39

catinboots

2/10. Must try harder.

harverina · 05/06/2010 22:49

Sorry but what is a troll?

ruckyrunt · 05/06/2010 22:51

I havn't ever been called a trol even when i have said odd things that I thought happeed and could see they were trol like - noone called me a troll

2shoes · 05/06/2010 22:52

yabu
and need to move on

bibbitybobbityhat · 05/06/2010 22:53

harverina: see here