To want to invite both kids to dds bday party-just not at the same time?!

[poshsinglemum]

Hi. Dds birthday is coming up and I have two good friends with both with a lovely ds each. Trouble is these two ds are ''friends'' and beat the crap out of each other. At a party I held last night they carried on beating each other up, hurled toys around and generally behaved in a destructive manner. Im amazed teh garden is in one piece. On their own they are great but togather; a nightmare. The mums are lovely and shout at them but they are not firm enough or scary enough to stop the carnage.
I want to invite both dc to dds birthday party but I'm worried they will ruin it. It is going to be held in my parent's garden and they are older than most of the kids.

wwyd?

Invite neither.

what does your dd say? Does she want either of them at her party?

She's not yet two so she can't do sentances really but she does love them both it's just she got hurt by a tumble last night.

I wouldn't invite either, I'd say if asked that it is a party at your parents and just for younger children. Then have the boys round separately at another time.

How would you do it? You can come from 1-2 but you must go at 2 because X is coming 2 - 3?

Since that would clearly be telling them you have a problem with their behaviour when together, you might as well just come out and say it!

Can't see that working I'm afraid!

If the boys are older than your dd is it worth just saying the party won't be age appropriate and not inviting either?

agree - I'd invite neither.

I wounldn't invite any of them sorry

Invite neither. If either/both mum(s) say anything give last night as an example and say you're afraid that a younger child may get hurt.

Don't invite either of them. You don't have to do a big party thing at your DD's age, Just have a small family party