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wwyd really pics of ds friend in underwear on FB

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mamas12 · 05/06/2010 12:00

She is only 13.
It looks as though her and her friend went into the woods and just took pics of themselves in underwear doing cartwheels and climbing trees.
It looks like a peodo fantasy tbh and I'm worried.

I know the parents but don't hang around with them iykwim and I'm sure they would not like this one bit, but how do I tell them?

It was posted yesterday so maybe it's gone by now but I would want to know if they were mine but don't how I would like it to be told to me.

Help

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thesecondcoming · 05/06/2010 12:13

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itsybitsy08 · 05/06/2010 12:27

I think you should ring her parents - just say you arent being nosy but noticed them and thought they should know if they didnt already. Its for the best all round - yes they may shoot the messanger, but if you dont hang around with them, does it really matter if you get a mouthful? You are only looking out for their childrens best interests.

I dont think text message, facebook contact etc is appropriate in this case.

sanielle · 05/06/2010 12:30

OP are you sure it wasn't a bikini? Seems weird for girls their age to wander around in a bra and pants and take pics? I would also report to facebook btw if I was sure. Get the pics taken down asap

MrsHarkness · 05/06/2010 13:04

I'm with sanielle, maybe it was a bikini, my daughter is almost 13 and wouldnt be seen dead showing her bra and pants but would quite hapily wear a bikini, just seems a bit odd to me

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mamas12 · 05/06/2010 13:14

Thanks for your replies
Yes they are bra and pants, my dd has the same ones!

Hmm I'm not good at technical stuff, I prob won't know how to report this.

I only saw them because ds left it on accidentally and I saw the post and then clicked on them all. He doesn't know I've seen them. I am still in a little bit of shcok, they don;t really know what they were doing (I think) but not looking forward to a conversation with them.
I don't know their phone number.

Would an anonomous letter be alright do you think, along the lines of 'a fellow concerned parent'???

Am a coward I suppose

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thesecondcoming · 05/06/2010 13:19

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mamas12 · 05/06/2010 13:22

Yes, I see what you mean.
Embaressing though.
Right will try to sort it out today
Wish me luck! Will keep you posted on the response.

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TheBolter · 05/06/2010 13:23

If I were her mother, I would want to know about this.

Bloody Facebook.

lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 05/06/2010 13:24

def tell them. they might not know and as a parent i would like someoone to tell me if this was my girls.

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 05/06/2010 13:25

Anon letter is daft.

Find a way to contact them.

CornishKK · 05/06/2010 14:02

My niece and her friend did something very similar, took photos of each other in Anne Summers changing rooms(what were the staff thinking?). A dinner lady saw the pics on her DD's Facebook and phoned my brother - there were stern words and punishments. He was bloody glad someone told him though.

Wouldn't go the anonymous route, you could always just go through the school if that's easier?

gtamom · 05/06/2010 15:13

Go into sons facebook.
Go to pics (if still there)
Take screen shot.
Save screen shot.
E-mail to parents, or print out and bring over.

MrsHarkness · 05/06/2010 16:42

In that case if it is definately a bra and pants then I would want to know if it was my daughter, so I would be quite happy for you to come and speak to me and tell me about it, but then again not everyone is the same, hope it goes well

ThatVikRinA22 · 05/06/2010 16:49

id want to know - my anger would not be directed at the messenger. you must find a way of informing the parents, be brave!

my DD would be grounded for LIFE.

maryz · 05/06/2010 17:00

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imahappycamper · 05/06/2010 17:40

My DS had something very inappropriate on his FB page and a friend's daughter saw it. It took my friend a lot of courage to tell me, but of course I was glad. Much better to know and be able to do something about it.

CrankyTwanky · 05/06/2010 17:45

are the parents on fb?

go to the photo and tag the parents if you won't call.

Pluto · 05/06/2010 17:50

Surely someone you know must know contact details for the parents, failing this ask your DS. You should inform parents but if this isn't possible then you should report to Facebook. There will be a link next to the photo which says "report this photo."

iamreallysilly · 05/06/2010 20:56

Is there maybe a guidance teacher at their school you could tell and say you would like to be anonymous? they would deal with it, might make a big deal of it but if you feel you cant tell the parents yourself.

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mamas12 · 07/06/2010 09:24

Hi thanks for all the replies.

I haven't been able to see the parents yet. I think they're away or something so will still try.
I will get them informed.

The pics are so innocently 'look at me show off' type pics - I know the one girl and that is what she's like. But they don't really know what they actually come accross.

It's a case of ignorance and needing education so I will pursue it.

I'll let you know if they don't like the messanger though.

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mamas12 · 07/06/2010 09:25

Can I just ask, if I click on report this message, what happens?

Can it be traced to me I've never done it before.

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HotSprocket · 07/06/2010 09:38

It should ask why you want to report it with a list of options. One of the options is nudity/pornography.
It is confidential.

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