to think if some one is going to give a thankyou gift they should at least put some thought in to it?

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i know i am and very ungrateful, but i'm still going to start a thread about it!

i have a frien who i know very well, she knows that i'm allergic to dairy and that i'm t-total. she also knows that i dont eat chocolates or sweets with alcohol in them (its a religious thing, and she is of the same religion)

her pushchair was falling apart, it was really on its last legs so i offered to give her ours - free of charge, it was almost brand new just needed clean.

she was very greatfull and today gave me a box of chocolates with alcohol in every single one of them. so not only can i not eat them because i'm allergic to dairy, but i cant have them because they have alcohol in them

i should also put in to context that dairy allergy is since gettign pregnant and am craving chocolate, but cant have it so now have lovley box of fobidden chocolates sat in frount of me

Do you think she got them as a present herself and is trying to get shot of them?

No, not ungrateful but she probably just forgot - or didn't bother to really look at the packaging. Thoughtless of her, I agree.

lol, katisha i hadnt thought of that!

Um, could she just not have noticed? I'm allergic to nuts and people who know that frequently buy me boxes of chocs containing the fatal little bleeders. Not thinking, rather than not caring, methinks.

Unless they're trying to kill me, of course

YANBU, she is blatantly passing on a box of chocolates she received...

Actually I'm not surprised this has floored you, especialy if she is the same religion as you and wouldn't be eating anything containing alcohol either.

Next time you see her hand it back and say you can't eat it as it has alcohol in it and you have a dairy allergy, you didnt want it to go to waste, but thank you for the thoughtful gesture!!!

She gave you alcoholic chocolates? That is pretty random if she is t-total too!

Does she adhere quite strictly to your religious beliefs? Do you think it is possible she thought you didn't?

As for the dairy thing when people don't have an allergy or aren't vegetarian etc etc they tend not to really think too hard and get confused.

Send 'em to the school summer fete for the tombola.

Which is another place she could have got them from...

That does sound a bit thoughtless. I think that she had only forgotten about the dairy allergy,that could be understandable, but if you are both members of a religion that forbids alcohol she should have realised that it wouldnt be a good present for you.

YANBU, she is being thoughtless. I also thought that she was passing on an unwanted gift.`

were both very strict with our religious beliefs and its always the first thing i look for in a box of chocs and her too, i've been shopping with her!

maybe she was just trying to pass on an unwanted gift!

I've had very similar happen to me!!! I'm dairy-free by choice, and a colleague was told by her GP that she needed to cut out the dairy for health reasons. She was struggling with finding a nice soya milk so I advised her which brand my dairy-free DH and I favoured (imo, there is one brand which is FAR superior to the others!), and gave her a carton (I have stacks in the fridge at work!), and spent some time listening to her health woes etc. She told me a couple of days later it was the best brand and she enjoyed the soya milk more than the others she'd tried and was very grateful for the recommendation and time I'd given her ... and gave me a box of dairy chocolate to thank me.

Sorry to hijack the thread but AbFab have been looking for a not cardboard tasting soya milk (lactose intolerant) for aaaaaaaaaggggggggggessss. Please tell me which one it is.

Addicted, yanbu. I'm lmao at the brass cheek!

She probably forgot.

Perhaps she is angry with you for some other reason, which she is perhaps not fully aware of, and was expressing her unconscious feelings.

I actually think if she knew you wouldn't eat the chocolates because of the alcohol...she was being really rude!

I once gave a friend who is diabetic some chocolates when she was in hospital. I spent ages in the shop choosing which type to buy her and I simply forgot that she couldn't have them. It was just a simple mistake and I only realised what I'd done when I arrived home from the hospital.

Songbird, my favourite is the So Good chilled - not the longer-life one you get on the normal shelves, but the refrigerated version (there is a difference). Hope you like it too!!!

Agree that she is probably palming off a box she was given and can't eat because of the religious anti-alcoholic chocolate thing - but it's SUCH a crap thing to do, a real slap-in-the-face type of thank you gift. (The dairy allergy probably doesn't come into it, tbh - she probably forgot about that.)

YANBU at all.

yanbu its so rude
i would say to her they have got alcohol in them & see what she says

I wouldn't give them back, otherwise you'd be being rude as well IMHO. But you could ask her whether she realised they had alcohol in.