to think it would be polite to ask?

[AngelaCarleen]

My neighbour has started having stuff delivered to our house when she's not in, it's not a problem, I'm on maternity leave and she's working. But, wouldn't it have been polite to ask first before she started putting in delivery instructions 'if not in please deliver to '?

And she hasn't even picked the bloody things up, we now have 4 parcels clogging up our porch. Grr!

sounds much friendlier where I live thank goodness. we take in each other's parcels all the time and I usually write on the instructions that parcels can be left with neighbours or behind wheelie bin - it's just so the postman doesn't have to take them back to the depot. of course yanbu if you are being turned into a depot of your very own but I'm glad my neighbours are friendlier than seems the norm from on here

Before you get cross with her, check with your DH/P if she has asked him and he's forgotten to mention it. Would be embarrassing if you went round there and objected and she HAD asked. If this is not the case then I think it is rude to just assume you don't mind interrupting what you are doing to collect her parcels and I would stop doing it.

eh? just don't accept them

why ever would you interrupt feeding your baby for someone else's parcel. just don't answer the door.

Wouldn't be a problem for me.

Mind you, we don't have a porch

Here the postman automatically pops to neighbours-he hasn´t been asked to specifically!

Yes sometimes postman and couriers drop parcels at neighbours even when you request not to do so. I do alot of shopping online and always ask that they do not leave the parcel anywhere if someone is not home at my house but at least 75% of the time they leave at a neighbours anyways. Often couriers/postman know if someone is home in a neighbouring property and if they deliver regularly will remember this and make it habit.

Perhaps you should politely ask your neighbour what the situation is.

I have exactly the same with my neighbour. When a large box and a stepladder arrived I was a bit irritated when the delivery man said my address had been given if they weren't in. We have a garage but it is very full and I had a job to fit them in.And when she collected said items she didn't actually say "Thank you".
It isn't taking the parcels in that I mind, I would just like to be asked.
On the other hand we have got to live next door to each other so we need to be on reasonable terms.

I have stuff delivered to my neighbours. Fortunately they are nice and don't mind at all. I didn't ask first either.

My neighbour practically forced me to put her down on delivery instructions for any parcel that I wasn't in to collect!! She is at home caring for her elderly and unwell mother plus has severe asthma herself and says that as myself and DH are teachers (a job she says she would never do for all the money in the world) she likes to be able to help out.

It's a bit different from the OP's situation because we didn't ask but were instructed to use her as a back-up! She's brilliant and even sends one of her scary teenagers round to deliver our parcels when we get home. In return we help her interpret unhelpful letters from her sons' schools and cut the hedge in her front garden.

There was probably a box on the checkout page of the website asking what to do if no-one was in, so she dutifully filled it in with your address.