Hungover Friends vs Toddler

[HeatherRuss]

A few of my friends arranged to go out for lunch today and because they 'hadn't seen LO in ages' they asked me to bring her. One of my friends is TTC but the other three are not intentending to start a family anytime soon. Anyywayy we went to wetherspoons which is all fine and one of my friends turns up in the previous nights clothes, hair a state and make up smeared across her face. During lunch she goes to the toilet twice to vomit and only talks about how hungover she is and how wasted she was the previous night. She and another friend manage to polish off 3 bottles of wine between them during lunch.

I totally wouldn't normally have a problem with this but she insisted I bring DD and I dont think this is really good behaviour to be showing her, even though she is only 10months. Had I known I would have simply not come!

Am I being totally ott?

purely on the basis that this is hungover friend vs baby, yes YABU

I'm sure your baby didn't notice ....

Doesn't sound like much fun, but I'm not sure whether your ten month old (exceptional though I'm sure she is ) would have picked up on the nuances of your friend's behaviour and set herself up for a lifetime of damage.

A bit OTT, yes! Didn't affect baby in any way.

Babies are masters of bad behaviour and puking. So who's the bad influence?

Well your DD is not going to be learning from your friend just yet, so YABU if you are concerned about the effect on her atm!
But your friend obviously has no idea about parenthood. If you want to stay friends with her I would either leave DD at home in the future or suggest a more baby-friendly place to meet- lunch in a park weather permitting rather than a pub.

Your friend sounds like all of my friends including the mothers FAB!

If your DD had been 4 or so you might have had a point (though I wouldn't have been able to resist a lovely lesson in responsible alcohol consumption) but at 10 months she wouldn't have noticed.

I just spotted this and realised you are totally BU.

"we went to wetherspoons which is all fine"

Wetherspoons are NEVER NEVER NEVER fine. Shame on you.

heh heh OP, sorry but I have just read your thread title again - it's like who'd win a fight.
(not advocating violence before someone swoops)

YABU for eating food in Wetherspoons

In my defense, its not a proper wetherspoons. It a 'llyods bar' which is same company wetherspoons, a bit bigger, kids menu's and highchairs and stuff like that. (just wasn't sure how to explain it without telling people exactly where I meant!)

But you're all right think I was definitly overreacting, thankyou!

I'm actually secretly impressed at the simultaneous vomming, lunching & necking of 3 bottles of wine.

It sounds like a very sensible place to have taken both h/o chum AND small dd, tbh.

Well, you can't be too careful: I would lock up the gin bottle tonight. Example means so much to little ones.

Did you buy your baby a chicken nugget meal with free fruit bag?

Lol

your friend must have stank to high heaven

and to have wine when hungover

boak

I think I love your friend

I think your 10 month old will survive the trauma...I'd possibly avoid this group of friends on a girls night out again though...

URBU!
Seriously, 10 months old and you're worried about the influence on her??
Your friends sound like great fun! They are allowed to have a good night out and also want to say hi to your baby the next day

dont be so precious!!!! I quite like seeing people like this, reminds me of my youth

but Wethersoons? MING

YABU - sounds like the kind of lunches I used to have 20 years ago.

Is wetherspoons really that ming?

I love it!

Your friend still showed up! I think your DD will survive the trauma.

I yearn for the days of 3 bottles of wine at lunch. You may be in danger of your friends thinking you have turned into a boring, disapproving mummy.

A bit unpleasant maybe, but I doubt your DD was aware/upset by this. I know where you are coming from though, I would feel uncomfortable if it were my DD and me there.

Russ, YABU. Obviously.