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To be annoyed at my sis tonight?

14 replies

tightwad · 03/06/2010 20:57

She has gone on holiday 3 times now for between 2-3 weeks alone leaving her dd with my mum. No probs, she has gone to some fantastic places with her pal, she isnt a boozy bird, loves to travel, and misses her dd (7)like mad, but given the opportunity, she has grabbed it.
Ive never commented, ive taken her dd out to give my mum a break, not a dicky bird, ive no opinion but the rest of my family have all commented that she should not be leaving her child blah blah blah,,,

So me, dh and ds are of to Florida in a few weeks. We have been saving for 4 years for this holiday. Ds is 7.

So dsis was asking when we go to see Mikey mouse, i told her and her dd says "oooh can i come, i want to come" to which d sis says "no, you are far too young to appreciate something like that" (kids are both 7)

So i says, "what rubbish, its designed for kids, she would absolutely LOVE it, she is a perfect age"

So i am cross at dsis as she is being judgemental, clearly dissaproves of us taking ds there and i am disapointed as i was the only one who was not judgemental about her holiday habits.

I thought maybe she was saying that because she was trying to put dn off, but she didnt, she was clearly sending me a message about her thoughts.

Any hoo, we never fall out, so left it there, but i am somewhat irritated that she of all people having been judged by people then does the same thing to me.
So,if it were you, would you be irritated? What would you do?

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ItsGraceAgain · 03/06/2010 21:12

Tell her. Better done at the time, but still.
You could always suggest she does the same trip with DD - offer to spy out some places she'll enjoy. Then, when she puts you off, explain your concerns.

This actually does seem a bit odd. I didn't think twice about it until I got to the part where she showed she's actively opposed to taking DD somewhere. Does she always go with the same friend? Is she gay?

Ladyanonymous · 03/06/2010 21:14

Is she gay?

What the fuck does that have to do with anything?

tightwad · 03/06/2010 21:18

Na not gay its a pal who doesnt have children though.

She is actually quite a strong character and doesnt let the negative comments from my family bother her about going away every year without her daughter.

So i know that she has the opinion that ds is too young to go to Dysney world...sorry but is it not directed towards children...with it bieng magical and Dysney??

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Jux · 03/06/2010 21:32

How was she sending a message that she disapproves of what you are doing? I can see she is telling her own dd that she can't go, and it's quite clear she doesn't want to take her child, but it looks to me like she's just saving her own arse, not judgeing yours at all iyswim.

tightwad · 03/06/2010 21:35

dya think?

I kinda know my sis though, she sends messages this way

usually an ok sis, ususlaly fab actually

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CaptainDad · 03/06/2010 21:36

She's in no position to be judgemental, she doesn't even take dd on holiday with her!

I'm a bit of a snob but I took my little daughter (2) to a Butlins style holiday camp (the two of us) in the winter months and she loved it. Surely, when you've little ones, holidays should about them? The pleasure in the holiday is seeing them so happy.

Pozzled · 03/06/2010 21:38

I agree with Jux. Looks to me like she was just trying to make excuses to her DD for not taking her. Maybe she feels a little guilty that her DD has been left behind on all her trips so she has over-reacted slightly.

What makes you think that she really disapproves of your choice?

Hassled · 03/06/2010 21:38

Maybe she just has issues with Disney? Some people hate the whole Disney thing with a passion - I don't really understand why. I think you might be reading too much into it - I wouldn't assume there was any sort of message there.

tightwad · 03/06/2010 21:38

how mcugh happier can i kid be in Dysney land? tis made for 7 year olds surley

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compo · 03/06/2010 21:39

Is she single? It's great that she has such supportive parents

booyhoo · 03/06/2010 21:39

tbh she probably didn't want to have to commit to tking her dd somewhere like that so she told her dd she wouldn't enjoy it. she obviously believes holidays are only for adults.

anyway, i dont think it was a dig at you in anyway so i would let it go.

wukter · 03/06/2010 21:40

I think she was putting her DD off holidays in general not just Disneyland.

CaptainDad I agree to a point but I do think there should be something for everyone in a holiday.

tightwad · 03/06/2010 21:42

single, lives with my mum, so mum looks after dn ALLOT. As is ay, she isnt a boozy gorl, rarely goes out.
Only ever taken dn on holiday once...with my mum who looked after dn allot

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CaptainDad · 03/06/2010 22:13

You're right wukter. I'm a single parent so all the activities laid on were perfect. When she's a bit older we can do all the things I enjoy together.

Mind you, if she gets into rock climbing, she's on her own!

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