To be annoyed at PIL

[tillywee]

The old story I'm afraid!
For ages PIL have been promising DC's they will take them out in the holiday's...the usual crap about giving me a break etc...

Anyhow all week the kids have bugged me about it and MIl phoned on Tues..no mention of taking them out....this is not the only time they have made promises that come to nothing.

How should this be handled? I'm sick of explaining it to the DC's why they say things and not follow through.

I would tackle it head on and ask pil not to mention things to DC unless they are set in stone.

Your pil may be kidding themselves that that DC are not that bothered by their twatishness.

Did You ask MIL you know how you said you wished to take the kids out what day is good for you?

it may be that she is waiting for your ok. If not and she makes excuses then 100% agree w Coronaandlime's suggestion

Get the kids to ask them

Agree with Lonnie.....call them up to fix a date.......make sure you mention how excited the DC's are!

get your DH or DC to do it

in the smae situation myslef.

so, got dh to sort a dya out with them.

ds went for 2 days and an over night sleep over ! well worth jsut aksing them.

They take them out whenever they ask usually.

That's the thing...pil seem to think the dc's forget what they say, ds1 remembers everything.

Mil in particular is pretty wishy washy and can never make a plan and stick to it....it winds me up because this time she promised ds1 and dd1 a sleepover, which she has been saying for ages.

Mil rang earlier and sprung it on me that she wants to go out tommorow but as I have told her last week my mum is having them tommorow.

part of me thinks this is all point scoring as she does this everytime she knows my mum is having them, and trys to get DH to override my plans...she can be very petty about who sees the DC most.

All very annoying

Aah so she is playing silly manipulative games rather than being wishy-washy?

If you want your dcs to spend time with them, and want to pin her down to a date, then just before the next holidays go prepared with diary/calendar. (better still your dh should take the lead)

As soon as they start mentioning days out with the dcs, say loudly and firmly "ooh lovely, I have brought the diary" Now, how about Monday or Tuesday? Get something down very clearly so there is no misunderstanding or double booking.

If she won't commit, then say very loudly and clearly, something like she needs to ring you by x date at the latest as the dcs have other friends/family that are keen to book dates.

Exactly....she wants to commit to something when it's my mums turn, my mum comes on sundays usually and she has got Dh to agree to let her take them out on sundays quite a few times.

She goes around me to him, he agreed to let her take ds1 on holidays 2 years back, he only just got back for his birthday that year.

Have many problems with them...she always favours ds1, he is the only one she has any interest in.

DH is a bloody nightmare where she is concerned, if I hadn't answered the phone tonight he probably would have agreed to let them take the dc's tommorow......DH makes alot of excuses for her shitty behaviour.