to wonder why DH shut the bedroom window because DS#2 was having a mammoth tantrum?

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He didn't want the neighbours to hear. Admittedly DS was screaming as if we were skinning him alive although actually all we did was stop him playing Wii sports. DS was hot and worked up and I thought the bedroom was too warm anyway so I opened the window. H demanded I shut the windows so the neighbours wouldn't hear

I don't give a toss what the neighbours think. After all they must be used to DS#2's tantrums by now - and I refuse to be constrained by what other people think.

AIBU? Parenting should be according the needs of the child, not the opinions of the fucking neighbours?

maybe it's not so much their opinions but so they don't get pissed off with all the yelling? being neighbourly and all that

Maybe. I don't think so though. Perhaps I should be more charitable .....

You are quite right and you shouldn't let threads on here that start with "AIBU to report the neighbours to social services/police because their DC screamed" change your mind.

tbh I have shut the window/door when my dcs have been having a tantrum. I do get because I think our family makes a huge amount of noise and the neighbours are lovely.

Not just tantrums, other stuff like shrieking, and dd1 clippity clopping in plastic play shoes at 6am. General banging/shouting/playing from 6am until 8pm. If I was our neighbour I would complain

I don't really care what the neighbours think, it is more what I think. (I am too sensitive I know). Perhaps that is what your h meant?

I think you are right fwiw though (re opening the window).

I shut the windows if one of mine is in melt down. It scares the chickens nextdoor. They then kick off and that sets the dogs off next to them... Much easier to shut the window.

Yabu, they shouldnt have to put up with the tortured cat like screaming.

My neighbours have a little drama queen (as do I ) and I wish they'd shut the bloody windows, I have enough listening to my own dd's wobblers, I don't want to share hers to.

Gawd! Maybe you're all right. We are probably the family from hell. No-one seems to talk if they can shout. Oh the shame. I am clearly pining for my natural habitat - a large country house with a 7 acre garden

I might have shut the window so as not to disturb the neighbours, tbh.

I shut the windows at the first hint of a yell. A) I don't want to give insane witch neighbour more ammunition , B) I don't want nice neighbours to be disturbed, and C) I don't want other people to hear any of us yelling. I value privacy - which is not the same as being constrained by what other people think.

It seems to me that the window-shutting issue is a red-herring - are you just a bit pissed off with DH generally and this is the thing you've found to focus on?

Hmm I shut the window if DS is making a right racket tantrumming. Only reason is that it's a god awful noise and I don't want to subject others to it if I can avoid it!

Funnily enough hassled I'm not pissed off with DH.

I would shut window, just like I would tell ds to turn radio down if it is too loud. Nothing to do with being ashamed or frightened, just consideration for other people.

we are all constrained by what other people think, to some extent - apart from the occasional sociopath. I don't think that's anything to be ashamed of.

YABU - why should the neighbours listen to that if it is avoidable? Open the window again when tantrum abates.

I think YABU - I used to have neighbours across the road who had windows open all the time so a fair few of us were privy to their domestics. Not pleasant.

Not nice to listen to DC "screaming like skinned cats" - also not nice to listen to harridans screaming at their DC/P/whoever happened to be in the vicinity - quite scary in some instances. Good on your DH.

Even with our windows shut you can hear the dc's hollering down the street. I can hear my neighbour running his taps so open windows are the least of my problems. If my neighbours were going to complain I reckon they'd have done it by now.

orm I dream of a huge solid brick house, miles from anywhere where the dc's can make as much noise as they want.

Perhaps he was thinking of the neighbours and trying to make it less noisy for them

My DP's the same, he gets stressed when my DD throws screaming tantrums and doesnt like the nieghbours to hear.
I would LOVE for someone to knock on my door in the middle of my DD having a tantrum, I think I'd skin them alive! Hahaha
I guess your DH just worries what they might do, like complain ect.
But I think you're right, I'm sure they know kids have tantrums.

All about consideration for others, I always shut the windows or doors when mine goes into one.

OK I'll ask him why. I suspect it wasn't about consideration, more the embarrassment factor.

I would have shut it too. Our neighbours children are very very shouty/whiny at the tops of their voices and it annoys the crap out of me. If their parents gagged them for a couple of hours a day I would be a happy woman

Tho' we're happily past the tantrum stage; now the neighbours would have to put up with ds and his mates' band practice

Ooooh... a gag! Nice idea mumble

I shut the windows when there is shouting going on just because I'm a little

I have two hormonal teenagers at the moment and there always seems to be shouting and door slamming going on - and I swear the neighbours get the popcorn out and enjoy the show