To be annoyed about my mill attitude towards my dc

[springchik]

Shes always been the same ever since my oldest ds now 4.9 was born. I've always had to hide how much my dc see my parents or it always prompts barbed comments.

Anyway tonight my dh popped round and mil said whenn can she come round this week as its half term and she misses the boys as its been nearly two weeks. Dh said it will have to be Friday as ds1 is staying round my parents tonight and prob til thursday if he likes it. He has never stayed round my parents like this apart from whenn my ds2 was born 2 and a half years ago. She then launched into her usual speech of he does have 2 lots of grandparents you know and he can always stay round here etc etc. They have a one bedroom bungalow and have never offered! My parents offered this awhile back and did one of their rooms up for this reason.

My dc see both sets of grandparents alot. The other week we spent a sunday afternoon evening visiting them in their caravan at a lovely site they were visiting. A week before that the babysat while we went out. But if my dc see my parents we feel we have to keep quiet and I'm sick of it!

I have the same problems. My PIL don't see my ds that much - their choice - but my MIL is put out whenever he sees my mother.

I used to spend ages trying to get her involved etc but she's just not interested.It boils down to this my MIL doesn't want to see ds but she doesn't want my mother to see him either. There's no winning. I have decided that if someone has a jealous nature then there is nothing you can do about it - except ignore it. The more you pander the more upset you get about the whole situation. You have done your best to be equitable so ignore her or tell your dh to have a word.

Yabu. Why is having only one bedroom a reason not to allow your dc to stay over? I'm sure she isn't intentionally trying to point score, these things usually seem to be six of one and half a dozen of the other when it comes to misconstruing what ils have/haven't said or done. Take her up on her offer for him to stay over, then you will know if she means it or not.

AngelsOnHigh I thought that too when I read sunnydelight's post. I feel sorry for a lot of the ils I read about on here.

I think sleeping on the floor in the sitting room is something you do occasionally if you have to. If it's young kids then I'd prefer them to go to bed at a reasonable time and not be disturbed. Mats or campbeds in the living room just sounds like you'd get exhausted irritable children back the next day.
If you don't have enough bedrooms for visitors then you don't have enough bedrooms for visitors.