to think this woman is a prezilla?

[boatgirlie]

Right I'll keep this short and sweet! DW of BIL is pregnant with DD1, whilst I am pregnant with DC2 (currently 19 weeks). Nice to have someone to swap morning sickness stories with, but now its got to the stage where I feel everything is a bloomin competition! Example, I mentioned I had back ache, she then states she's had terrible back ache and hers must be twice as painful as mine since I can walk! (She is walking and bending around quite nicely I noticed!) I'm getting to the point where I can't be arsed to speak to her since all I get is "mines bigger/achier/painful than yours" etc, etc.

Should I be more understanding as this is her first and forget my own woes, or point out that it is not a competition!? Or just avoid her completely?

Ha ha meant to say pregzilla in the topic!!

How often do you have to see her? I'd be tempted to smile slightly patronizingly and ignore it if I only saw her every now and then, but if you're in close contact with BIL and his wife, you might want to say something along the 'not a competition' lines.

Just because this is your second pregnancy doesn't mean you should feel expected to play down your own problems if you are in pain or discomfort. I know I haven't!

Just start agreeing with her and tell her how fat/tired/awful she looks - completely drained, what a shame that some ladies bloom during pregnancy where others wilt.

Lol! Thanks both, I see them at least once or twice a month which isn't alot I know but just feel drained afterwards! Just found a bar of galaxy in the fridge and suddenly things seem alot better! Sending you chunks from here!

Say 'whilst some of us bloom, others can look blooming awful'.

Wait until the babies are here. You have a lifetime of 'competition' from her to come I imagine!

Good luck!!

Say "ooh I feel so fat!" and when she says she is fatter, agree with her.

Complain about dreadful wind, and when she claims to have it worse say, "Oh, it must be you I can smell then. I thought I'd never had bad wind before today and just assumed that pong was me. You poor thing." And move your chair away.

Come on woman, the scope is endless

I would go the other way and start talking about how well you feel and excited you are about the baby... Nauseate her in return!

Like your style BalloonSlayer

Say how horny you are and how much sex you're having

That'll shut the competitive cow up.

Wait til the baby arrives and yhen you can do competitive tiredness!

Just say 'Oh yes, I remember being pregnant with my first, you feel everything so much when you've nothing else to think about. Course I know second pregnancies are actually harder on the body than first one but you just don't have chance to worry about it running round after DC1, you know what I mean....? Oh sorry of course you don't - ah well you might, one day....but let's get you through this one first shall we?'

I vote for saying that it's not a competition. Then you can both just laugh it off. She probably doesn't even realise she's doing it.