To say my ds cant have a specific drink at parties

[Lonnie]

My 8 year old goes absolutely hyper for several hours after he has a fruit shoot. Because of this I have banned them in the house and they are not allowed to get them if we are out. (I am fairly relaxed about drinks when we are out as at home they drink water milk and juice I do not mind the occational fizzy drink or milkshake when we are out)

However lately I have noticed that at parties it is fruitshoots that gets served and ds is horrific for 3-4 hours after completely hyper shouts and you can literally see him twitch as his body is reacting to something in this drink. I have in the past said ok I can cope with it the few parties but there is a further 4 parties coming up over the next 5 weeks (2 we have ivites to and 3 I know about already but no invite yet) right now he is shouting at the top of his lungs FOOTBALL CRAZY FOOTBALL MADDDD EVERYBODIES CHEERING SO YOU SHOULD ALL BE GLAD it has been going on for 20 mins and the girls are all very fed up (he is single boy around 4 girls) this off course sets him off even more and we are in a vicious circle.

Due to this I am planning on letting the parents know that he is not to have fruitshoots at parties he feels I am utterly unresonable. This would not usually deteer me but his older sisters are somewhat agreeing with me (even though they admit he is annoying) this threw me as they are usually both very sensible girls.

so AIBU?

You are going to have to train him (and I have been at parties where 3/4 year olds have asked for water because they can't have anything else). If you tell him either he has to only drink water or he won't be going to any more parties, maybe he will remember.

But as a parent I have had vegetarian children snaffle the sausages while my back is turned etc. (Nuts are easy, you just don't have them.) Do mention it to the parents in advance (and do make it just water), incase they are unprepared.

Why do we use fruit shoots at parties? Because they tend not to spill, and come in individual servings. It used to be Kia Ora before. At my parties is often what is on special offer. But I do usually have a few cups and a big bottle of water just incase.

I must say if a parent specifically said that fruitshoots sent their child hyper I wouldn't feel it a huge imposition not to serve them at a party. After all, I wouldn't particularly want to deal with a hyper child in the middle of a party and would be grateful for the warning.

YANBU. All this talk of having a reasoned discussion and of you being unreasonable to tell him no is madness. You are his mother - he is 8, a child, FGS, and you have every right - and reason - to expect him to do as he's told without argument. He knows the reasons already, discussion is not necessary. If you say no then both he and his hosts should respect that. Surely it's no trouble to a host to offer an alternative drink?

I dont think its fair to expect the parents of the birthday child to tell him he cant have a fruit shoot, i wouldnt want to have to dictate what he can drink and be left with an embarressed upset little boy .

Looking at the list of ingrediants , unless you are moitoring his diet extremeley closeley its likeley he is consuming those ingrediants in other types of food. I think its daft to blame a drink for his behaviour , it does not have the capacity to turn him into a hyperactive little boy who cannot control himself.