To want brother in law to leave?

[KitchenKate]

I'm 40+11 days pregnant, in a foul mood and confined to the bedroom of our 2 bed flat because my hung over brother in law has invited himself to stay on the couch!
He is from Dorset and we're in Manchester and he has decided to come and stay at the worlds most inconvenient time! I feel horrible getting so annoyed cos he has just presented me with flowers and brought us a brand new tv (completely out of the blue especially as we have a fully functional tv - v confused but grateful!)
we didn't invite him and have said repeatedly that he can't stay so why is he here!!!
My OH has taken the day off work to spend with me as I'm being induced tomorrow and this may be our last chance for a long time but he's currently in the living room with his brother! Also what if I go into labour?!? It's very possible and I just don't feel comfortable him being here while I'm moaning and contracting!
Am I being unreasonable to want him to leave?

Of course you're not being unreasonable. Have you asked him nicely if he could leave? What did he say?

Your OH has to make him leave. Now! YAVDNBU!

god not at all.
get him mucking in, he'll be off.
my bil offered to stay when i had dd3, although we didnt know exactly when she would come.. i said No thanks.

YANBU. Has he told you why he's there? I don't understand why your DH hasn't told him to go tbh.

Take the telly out of the equation and just ask him to leave. Does he actually understand the timescale of a pregnancy?! At the very least ask him to get off the couch and spreadeagle youself over it.

Get your DP to ask him to leave.

We told him he couldn't stay over last night so he disappeared to a mates but she's gone to work and he arrived again this morning to lounge on the couch. Tbh I think he wanted to see the baby which should have been here by now but as it isn't he's decided to wait around till it comes.
OH just said we're going out soon to buy some last minute hospital bag stuff and BIL asked if he could stay and watch tv while we're out. Have told OH no so he's going to go and break the news to him. Again. He just doesn't seem to get the hint!

Yell from the loo that you have just had a show and invite him in for a look

should get rid of him

Oh dear! He probably thinks it's nice to stick around so he can be the first to see the baby, and offer moral support to his brother! He's got no idea (stoopid bloke) about how sensitive and stressed you are feeling, or about why it's really important you have your space and privacy right now. Get DP to have a heart to heart with him. Unless he's a total pig/eejit he'll understand.

perhaps he feels he should

the flat needs a thorough clean doesnt it? Suggest he does it?

If that doesnt work explain the midwife is coming in half an hour to do an internal examination in the living room, does he want to help hold your leg?

Maybe he just does not realise he is in the way!

Has your dh made him go yet?

or go into the living room and cry loudly?

whya re you "confined to the bedroom" btw? What is stopping you joining them?

He's gone! They had a heart to heart and he left. I think I heard the word placenta banded about Still feel like a huge bitch but at nearly 42 weeks pregnant I think I reserve that right lol.
Thanks all for your tips! I defintely think he just wanted to be the first to see the baby. He seemed to think it's like in friends when you arrive at the hospital with all your friends and family and they stand around waiting for the birth. Tv has a lot to answer for!!

Just in case he comes back- try faking a bit of labour!

Hurray! Well done your OH. And good luck for your very imminent birth.

He's gone? Damn! I was just going to suggest you hurl a large piece of liver at him and pretend it's your placenta! That would have got him moving.

Sorry, that was a bit crude and I hope non-one takes offence! It was just my initial reaction to reading this and thinking what I'd do in your place.

I had an induction with DS and all went without a hitch so I hope the same is true for you. Good luck!