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AIBU?

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bubble1 · 31/05/2010 00:22

AIBU in not wanting to go to zoo tommorrow just because cheating hubby wants to put on 'happy family front' for kids?

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snice · 31/05/2010 00:24

YANBU to not want to go to zoo on Bank Holiday Monday

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bubble1 · 31/05/2010 00:28

thanx

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hmc · 31/05/2010 00:31

What will you do instead? Why not send cheating hubby to zoo with kids whilst you try and relax at home....

ApocalypseCheese · 31/05/2010 00:34

Shame really if the kids will miss out.

I understand what you're saying but the children must always come first.

fyimate · 31/05/2010 00:36

Can I ask for more info? I mean, not to excuse the cheating hubby but how long since he cheated?
I assume you have not forgiven seeing as you are not wanting to go.
I ask because if it's been a while and you've agreed to stay with him and forgive (when you're ready) shouldnt going out together as a family help?

And if everything I have said above come out as stupid and naive....I'll go with what hmc suggested.

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bubble1 · 31/05/2010 00:36

god.. thats so weird! He said exactly same thing...soooo not him which makes me think must be taking HER instead. So...i either go and spend day with him (arrrrggghhh) or stay at home, feel crap for not being with my kids, and wonder all day what he s up to...shit, what a choice!

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hmc · 31/05/2010 00:39

Bubble1 - perhaps he is trying to make ammends rather than plotting to spend time with her?

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bubble1 · 31/05/2010 00:43

oh paleeeaase.. its 2 weeks since he cheated...we live in same house because i cant afford to leave, solicitor involed.. i dont trust him as far as i can throw him...never offered to take kids out before...what more do u need to know?

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fyimate · 31/05/2010 00:48

Well tbh you seem to have pretty much already made up your mind.
I guess seeing as you have no intention of forgiving him and you dont trust him at all then you need to think about how you are going to live with him (given you said you cant leave) amicably without hurting the kids ie, with any arguments etc.

every20minutes · 31/05/2010 00:51

Are you two going to stay together and work it through?

Sorry that you have been cheated on =(

BritFish · 31/05/2010 01:26

he's a bastard, let him suffer the hell of bank holiday zoos. if he brings the other woman along, your kids will mention and you ahve full rights to scratch his eyes out.
hope you have a nice peacful day tomorrow

darkandstormy · 31/05/2010 08:47

I would let him take them on his own, you have a nice restful day on your own.Win Win situation.

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