to not want adults to queue jump my children?

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so AIBU?
was in the library closing time in 5 minutes we'd nipped in to return books, ran to childrens section to borrow a couple and been asked to go the moment we walked in. (my intention had been to go straight out once we'd looked for a partic. book)

so we end up grabbing 5 books (I was with 3 children) and went to counter. we'd handed over card and books when a man about 45 walks up to counter and says to librarian am I too late for this? (I'm thinking you know damn well you're not or else what am I doing here now get back in the queue) as he does so he hands book to librarian who takes it and says to me 'do you mind if I do this one first?'
to which i reply why?

she then says because there's only 1

then after a pause carries on stamping my childrens books.

so I say how are small children expected to learn to queue if any adult just walks up and pushes infront of them whenever they feel like it.

so the arse of a man then looks at me and says stressful? making eyes at my children and the idiot librarians just roll their eyes at each other.

(my dcs were actually for once standing quietly next to the desk!!)

arse man then tries to make small talk with me.

i just take my books and walk out muttering about extraordinary behaviour

so was I unreasonable?

should stress man had all 4 limbs and no obvious fleshwounds etc etc. didn't smile and say excuse me I'm about to get a parking ticket or any other similar excuse

I'm irrationally annoyed that they felt that my small chldren should be expected to wait for him to get his book

He was rude, YANBU

TBH I think it was up to you to say that you did mind.

The man was rude. I'm more than happy to let someone else go in front of me if they are in a hurry or have fewer items than I do - but not if they push in front without either asking first or being invited to.

i dont see what effect missing a limb and having a fleshwound would have have on his ability to wait his bloody turn!
if youd had offered, that would be nice, but you werent in a position to offer so he should have just shut up and waited.

he was rude, you were right - the end

YANBU. The way people bleat on about the 'youth of today' winds me up as I witness more adults behaving in an anti-social manner than I do children and teens.

I dont get all this.. well if they have less than you they get to go first stuff...

when did that become the rules of our society?? As far as I know if there is a queueing system its first come first served.. whether you are 5 or 105

Libraries prefere people who take out more books anyway ... they are judged on their borrowing rates

Now if this man had had 5 books and asked to the librarian to take them and she said do you mind?' then you would have been in your right to question her, but this bloke had 1 book.

He did ask and he only had one book. It always depends upon the situation. I would also try to instil kindness and forgiving. Sometimes it is kind to allow others in front especially if the only have one item. At least he asked.

If you read my reply Screamineagle you would see I said she WBU to not want the man pushing in!
I was just adding on a seperate note about the closingtime, because the OP had already said she'd been asked to leave had she not?? It's a personal bugbear for me because ive been on receiving end many a time. Not saying OP is one of these people, but many seem to think shop workers etc have no homes and children to go to!

W stands for was not BTW

YANBU. It should be first come, first served. What if there were five people all with one book, would they all have been served before you?

Hang on, ABF, her ticket had already been scanned. As for the closing time, the announcement was 15 minutes to closing, OP said 5 minutes to her DC, and they left with more than 5 minutes before the deadline.

Man was being rude, librarian was being particularly thick not to just say that ticket had been scanned and was in process of logging OP's books, and he should "wait his turn".

I blame the man, and the librarian, for not using some authority to stop his selfishness.

I will nearly always offer my place in a queue if (1) I have several items and someone has fewer, or (2) I plan to pay with plastic and see someone with cash, or who looks to be in a hurry. If I have 1 item, I regularly stand, patiently, and see just out of curiosity whether someone says 'would you like to go ahead'.

Was waiting in a queue today when I was invited me to another till... only had milk and some cat food, but appreciated the fact she came from wherever (behind me) as the couple in front had just unloaded a pile of items (it would not have bothered me to wait, it was 40 minutes before they close and I was in no special rush). Invited someone to go ahead of me in the other shop 10 minutes later!

(posted hours after opening thread. good to see you back ABF, how did the castle visit go?)

Ok didnt see the bit about 15 mins till closing, im getting into the bad habit of skim reading threads (tis why I hardly ever post on serious relationship type threads could get myself into a whole new world of trouble like that!)
I was just going on OP...
Librarian was being thick, surely she/he made more work for themselves by having to cancel op's "transaction"

Didnt end up going there NG, looked on website and all the jousting and extra activities werent on till this week so it didnt seem worth the ticket price! Not even going to try going tomorrow, the place will be heaving!

thanks guys can't believe the general opinion agrees with me on a AIBU!!

to clarify i did not make anyone late (and am not in the habit of doing so to shopworkers or anyone else.)

I went first

i did say something i asked the librarian why she felt the need to do his book instead of mine and when she said he only had 1 i pointed out that i could hardly expect to teach my children to queue if any adult was allowed in front of them on a whim (diffferent words) the man did not ask me.
he was clearly purposfully trying to queue jump I'm guessing because he feels his needs are more important than other peoples by asking the librarian 'am i too late for this?' this was a) during my transaction and b) whilst waving his book at her to get her to take it.

had he asked me with an apology and a mutter about his parking ticket or sore toe or whatever i woiuld probably have let him go first

i did not mutter but said to my children loudly on the way out that they had just seen extraordinary behaviour from an adult but it didn't matter they should wait their turn

i often let people with one item go in front but it rarely happens to me, besides that i can normally pay pack and exit the supermarket before the person in front has

the missing limbs or fleshwounds was a lame attempt to point out that he wasn't on crutches or carrying a melting icecream or whatever

importantly I was not asked to leave when we walked into the kiddies bit the librarian did the passive aggressive 15 minutes till closing time.

thanks guys!

i was not stressed which was why i didn't respond to his attempt at small talk I consider it highly rude of him to try and imply that i didn't let him go first because i find my children stressful rather than i find his manners obnoxious.
my kids were for once behaving beautifully

ABF I can always smell out our favourite haunt! My eldest loves it there, I've never actually seen the inside packed to heaving, even when we've had to park in the over flow field and walk 20 minutes up. The place seems to just absorb the numbers. I've seen it empty as we mostly go during school time but also been on weekends, school holidays and even went last bank holiday.

He knew he was being rude thats why he made the comment about you being stressed about the kids in an attempt to make you think you were overreacting.