am I being silly to let this upset me???

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I've just had a lovely day in the park with the children and some mums from school, we had a great time.

There was one mum who I was friends with a few years ago invited along to, I was warned this morning she was going, I did not have a problem with it the more the merry. I always get the impression that this old friend will speak to me when others are around to keep up appearances but when it just the two of us she will totally snub me.

Any way just on leaving the park she asked the other 2 mums that were with us back to hers for coffee, I didn't get asked!! didn't even get a goodbye from her, my other friend who got asked asked me if I was going, when I told her no I had not been asked she rolled her eyes, shook her head etc!!

The thing is I don't want to be friends with this person anyway, but if we are in group situations like that we should make an effort, all the children have played lovely together for the last 4 hours then everyone gets an invite except mine. Is it silly of me to come home upset I've even had a cry

She sounds very childish and I can understand why you were upset - this sort of thing is horrible. Don't waste your tears on her - have some wine and chocolate. If she carries on behaving like this she won't have any friends left anyway.

thank you all for your advice, off to the gym now with a new friend I've made at a class I go to. Had a text from one of the other mums who got an invite apologising for what happened (not her fault though)and to say she had a good time at the park and we should do it again sometime.

Have sent a reply to say I enjoyed it too, didn't mention what had happened thanks to some of the advice given, thank you xx

you don't need friends like that. try and forget about it. she's the one who has shown herself to be the petty spiteful fool.

I know the type. If you'd asked if u were included, she'd have made u feel needy. By u not asking/responding she'll try to make u look ignorant. Some people seem to be born with that "skill" but her behaviour will be noticed & people will soon go off her.

I guess the other 2 mums accepted her invitation without realising you'd been left out but then couldn't change their minds without looking as rude as her.

Now they too know what to expect & hopefully if you all get caught like that again you'll be able to put up a united front and be better prepared to deal with such rudeness, which was clearly designed to be hurtful.

Try to come to terms with the fact that some people can't be nice and always use that against people who are - like you!

YANBU, I used to have to work with a group of people like that.. it was awful and I felt so upset inside.

It just makes her look like a bitch, rise above it, hold your head up high and forget about her.