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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To make my mate go on a long journey with someone she dislikes?

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LollyWillows · 28/05/2010 14:16

Going to a wedding tomorrow. the bride is a friend from work, and quite a few poeple from work are going, including my best friend and her partner - lets call them A&B.

DD & I will be travelling up to the wedding by train, and have a group ticket with A&B. It's the kind that you have to all travel together on, and is heavily discounted (but still quite pricey for me).

Another colleague has offered me & DD a lift back, which I've jumped at, as the prospect of a 3 hour train journey, including going across London by tube, at night, with a 7 year old, is not a particularly appealing one. A&B knew this when we booked that tickets and were understanding and absolutely fine about it.

Another colleague - let's call him C - is getting a lift to the wedding, but would like to get the train back. He, like me, is not particularly well off, and it seemed to make perfect sense for him to have the return portion of my ticket, which he will pay me for, thus saving us both money.

Now the tricky bit: A really doesn't like C at all. I sent her an email earlier, clarifying the arrangments, and saying "by the way, sorry about this but, C might be joining you on the way back..." and explaining why.

She has sent me a quite clipped one line response - not mentioning C or the return journey, but I just know she is really bloody annoyed with me. I imagine she will be quite frosty tomorrow.

So, AIBU? Is she? What should I do / have done?

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VinegarTits · 28/05/2010 14:19

she's being pathetic

StealthPolarBear · 28/05/2010 14:19

if they are both adults then they can maintain a polite civil distance surely. They can take a book. They don't have to talk. 3 hours is really not that long. SIBU

YouDontRememberMeDoYou · 28/05/2010 14:20

She needs to grow up. If i were you i'd secretly be hoping they HAVE to touch knees all the way home (but then i am evil).

TrillianAstra · 28/05/2010 14:21

3 hours is not very long. Take a book/newspaper/ipod, claim a headache/hangover and ignore the other person.

LollyWillows · 28/05/2010 14:25

Phew, thanks

Thought I was being a bit selfish there for a minute. But yes, they are grown ups after all..

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GeekOfTheWeek · 28/05/2010 14:33

Depends why she doesn't like him.

I am not good at making idle chat with people I dislike, so a 3 hour train ride would be tough. On them

YouDontRememberMeDoYou · 28/05/2010 14:36

Yes but unless i read it wrong her husband will be with her too.

LittleMissHissyFit · 28/05/2010 14:43

understand that the passengers have to travel together, but do they have to actually sit together? Can't a and b in and find a pair of seats with c having to sit elsewhere?

squeaver · 28/05/2010 14:44

They'll be pissed by then surely? Everyone's you best friend at that point.

GetOrfMoiLand · 28/05/2010 14:47

Eh?

Just because they are n the same train doesn't mean they have to sit together.

Explain to your friend that trains are about half a mile long and she can sit in a different carriage. The daft caaa.

LollyWillows · 28/05/2010 15:27

I suppose her beef is that they will appear rude if he is on his own and they don't sit with him, so I'm putting them in a slightly awkward position.

But I know he fully intends on being half cut by the time they leave, so with any luck he'll just crash out and leave them too it.

He has just split up with his wife too. He could do with a bit of friendliness and compassion, poor chap.

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