to not understand why my friend is so upset?

[mosschops30]

My friend is godmother to ds1 along with her ex-husband (separated for 5 years not divorced though).
I asked her to be godmother to ds2 and said she could bring new boyf, she said she didnt want to bring him as he'd be uncomfortable.

I invited her ex husband naturally, along with his partner of 2 years, who has spent quite a lot of time with ds1 on days out etc.

My friend is now really upset and pissed off that her ex is bringing his partner. She said 'thats really naughty of him to bring her, especially when I havent met her, why does he have to bring her to the baptism'?

Now Im a bit about this really and wanted to know if Im just not understanding or if shes just OTT.
They have been apart for almost 6 years, she is happy for him to come to birthday parties etc as long as he doesnt bring his partner, I dont know why she expects to have to meet her beforehand, they have grown up children so its not even an issue about that. She is a bit weird about him, still expects him to send her a xmas card etc.

Can someone please point me in the right direction because I dont know if I should be sympathetic or if shes just being silly.

My ex and his wife won't attend weddings etc. that they know my dh & I will be at. It's 15 years since ex and I split up! I couldn't care less whether they are there or not but last year she threatened to 'rip my face off' on FB when she found out we were going to be at a friend's 30th...I only know because my Ds (age 20) is in contact with her via FB.

I think your friend is being a bit shit.

But that is nothing - my brothers threatened not to come to my wedding because our DAD was coming!

Luckily my mum talked them around, before I found out because I would have gone totally off it at them.