Okay, first time posting. Long time lurker, but now really need impartial advice.... Looong OP!
I have just separated from my DP, which is a totally different story. Anyway, am feeling really hurt by the actions of a certain friend. She and her DP have been friends of my exDP and I for some time now. And while she wouldn't be the kind of person I would normally become mates with, given my,and my ex's friendship with her DP, we have spent rather a lot of time hanging out over the past couple years, and become close. I have been a really good friend to her... Mopped up lots of tears, offered lots of advice, given lots of hugs, been a general shoulder to cry on. Which I would do for any mate.
However, since DP and I have separated, she has really hurt me. I have spoken to her several times since we separated, and while she knows what happened, she has never so much as asked how I am, or mentioned the separation. Then, last weekend, she was having a party to celebrate a certain event. A party which she had told me about many times. So, four days before the party, she texted exDP and invited him (he mentioned this to me, assuming I was going. Our separation is very amicable). On the day of the actual event, I sent her a message on FB (which is how we often communicate) saying 'Congrats on XYZ! Hope you have a great day, have you any big plans for it'. She called me saying 'thanks, no plans really, but will let you know if anything is happening so you can come around'.
Didn't hear from her, so assumed party had not gone ahead. Until she posted lots of photos of the party on FB, along with status updates announcing what a fab time she had with all her girlfriends...
Okay,it is her prerogative to invite whomever she wants, but given that I have looked after her sooo many times, given her a place to stay when she and her DP were having rows, helped get her business up and running and mopped up many tears, should I not expect some support from her?
Another bit of info (so as not to be accused of AIBU by stealth) - her DP and I are very close mates, and she is very paranoid about him, does not like him being around single women, so perhaps that is it... Though as a good friend, she should trust me enough to know that I am not after her DP??
So, AIBU to think she should be a better friend to me? My family and (other) friends all say she is being a bitch, but I really want an impartial opinion? Perhaps I should make allowances for the fact that she is insecure and paranoid?