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to be fuming at these nasty teenagers?

17 replies

SweetBeadieRussell · 26/05/2010 16:04

So I was on a bus with my two under 5's. Had to sit near the back as the front was full. A couple of rows behind I can hear the sound of pubescent testosterone fuelled effing and blinding, but do my best to ignore it, telling myself I did enough of that myself when I was horrible teenager, and that they're just letting off steam etc.

After a few minutes it becomes clear this is more than that; the conversation is now entirely about the rape and murder of small children. I shoot one of these heinous idiots a look which can only be interpreted as 'shut the fuck up', and am greeted by menacing grins.

Now they're making jokes about Madeleine McCann, Gary Glitter, you name it. They're talking about sick things their charming friends have emailed to them; one of them even postulates a situation where he becomes my kid's 'new daddy', the premise of which is thankfully lost under the amount of grunting and swearing the other one is doing.

At this point i turn around and demand to know why my children should have to sit there listening to them while they discuss one sick and twisted thing after another. They basically laugh and carry on. The next thing I hear is them discussing what they'll do to me when they get off the bus. All I can actually hear is '-when we get off the bus!' 'hehe, yeah, when we walk past her- fecking skank---'

So I turn round again 'Listen, I can hear what you're saying, you know...If you seriously think i'm going to be intimidated by you...' My judgement of them is that they're pasty little oiks, not the kind of teenager who'd actually do anything, this is a very quiet rural backwater and I probably know their mums. If we were in a big city (i'm from London originally) I probably would have either moved seats (if there had been any) or kept quiet for my kids sakes.

At this point they get aggressive 'what?what?' that kind of thing. They start denying everything and tell me to turn round in my seat. At this point the man sitting directly behind me who's been on a mobile phone cottons on to what's going on, and demands to know why they're starting on a woman with young kids. They protest and then shut up at long last. When they get off the bus, this bloke tells me that they probably go to the big sixth form college in the town we've just come from, and another man in front of me says that he works there and will look out for them.

i'm left feeling pretty appalled really.

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Lauriefairycake · 26/05/2010 16:08

I think the scenario you describe is cheering actually - everyone intervened, you stood up for yourself, someone said they would look out for them at the local college.

Sounds like a good community you live in.

Yes, what they said was shit but they didn't get away with it.

well done you (and the others)

venusonarockbun · 26/05/2010 16:11

Well done.

BritFish · 26/05/2010 16:11

little tossers, how good of your fellow passengers to speak up though!

SweetBeadieRussell · 26/05/2010 16:13

True, it is a good community,

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EleanorHandbasket · 26/05/2010 16:14

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sethstarkaddersmum · 26/05/2010 16:15

I had a 'nasty teenagers on bus' incident a few months ago on the way back home with MIL - not as bad as your lot, just pushing into the queue in front of old ladies etc who'd been queuing for ages and clearly needed the seats.

I was separated from MIL because she had been given one of the seats in the bus shelter while I was at the back of the queue, and I heard a couple of old ladies tear a strip off these teens without realising she was one of the old ladies in question. They were magnificent . I was hugely proud of her.
The bus driver then intervened and made sure the ladies got seats and the teenagers had to wait.

they really were just kids showing off and I was so glad their behaviour was challenged. Same in your situation - good for you & the man.

if I were you I would write to the head of the college and point out they are getting his college a bad reputation. It may do some good.

scurryfunge · 26/05/2010 16:15

I'm glad everyone chipped in, it would be very easy to ignore. Well done for challenging their behaviour. I expect they continued because they could see a reaction and took on a gang mentality....if you'd have spoken to one of them not in earshot of their mates, they'd have probably cried!

SimonCowellIsSatan · 26/05/2010 16:17

I'm glad to hear of someone sticking their ground with these little bastards! Probably got off the bus and went home for "bitty" anyway the shits.

usualsuspect · 26/05/2010 16:18

Well done ..but please don't label all teenagers as nasty

QOD · 26/05/2010 16:22

I have a plan in my head for this sort of situation and thats to look one of them in the eye and say something about how when I see their mum I will be letting them know exactly what I think of their son.
Not happened yet but its a thought!
bastard kids, i mean I remember being loud and inconsiderate, but never ever vile or vulgar. Was on the beach on sunday with dd and friend (both 11) and some rough sorts turned up..... 1 group of lads were "fake" rimming each other (what they kept screaming to each other whilst faking anal sex). WHy would they do that? what is wrong with them?

RunawayWife · 26/05/2010 16:29

Vile behavior, I have had this sort of scum thrown off of buses before now.

jenduff · 26/05/2010 16:35

Well done you and the others for standing up to them - they're just kids full of bravado and then probably poo themselves when someone stands up to them.

haoshiji · 26/05/2010 16:40

In a way the humanity / respect has gone for some children / teenagers. There are no boundaries.

When I was young if I was thought to be doing wrong by an adult and they said 'wait till I see your Mother' I'd shit myself at the possible chat to come later.

These days if someone says 'wait 'till I tell your mother' you just get told to 'fuck off you slag' or similar.

Not applicable to all children / teenagers at all but where has the attitude come from?

There seems to be no fear of recrimination these days?

SweetBeadieRussell · 26/05/2010 17:12

I just can't get my head around why they'd want people to think they're supporters of paedophilia and child murder... one for a qualified psychotherapist perhaps..

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sethstarkaddersmum · 26/05/2010 17:54

shock value. simple as that. paedophilia and child murder are the ultimate taboo. (And I have no qualifications whatsoever in psychotherapy )

oldandgreynow · 26/05/2010 18:07

and in 10 years time your DC will probably be doing the same sort of thing when you are not around!

HecateQueenOfWitches · 26/05/2010 19:42

I certainly hope mine will not be joking about child murder and rape! I would feel that I had utterly, utterly failed as a parent if I had not managed to instill in them at least a basic decency.

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