AIBU to remain friends even though another friend has fallen out with her?

[mice]

Hopefully this isn't too complicated and I really do want to know if IABU so all answers welcome!

I have two good friends, both have the same name which is a little confusing. One friend I have known for many years (frined 1) and it was through her I became good friends with the other friend (friend 2)

Recently friend 1 has accused friend 2 of something - in my opinion all a little silly - and they have had a huge falling out. I do beleive that the way in which friend 2 handled the whole situation was wrong - and that it could have been diffused, but it wasn't and now the friendship between them is over.

I see a lot of friend 1 due to our circumstances, and less of friend 2, so obviously have heard a lot more about friend 1's side of the argument than friend 2, but have maintained throughout that I do not want to be involved.

Other mutual friends have taken friend 1's side completely and no longer want anything to do with friend 2.

Friend 1 feels a bit upset that I have not ditched friend 2 - as she has treated her unfairly - and I think she is struggling with the fact that I intend to remain friends and will still see both her and her family.

So my question is am I being unreasonable not to have fully supported my friend 1 (who is my best friend) or is she being unreasonable expecting me to take her side in an argument I have and want no invovlement in?

You are both adults and can be friends with whoever you like. So no I dont think YABU for staying friends with both parties but I think your friend1 Is BU in expecting you to stop being friends with friend2. FGS she isn't 8 years old in the playground!

Umm... are you 12? Sorry that was flippant. Friend one shouldnt expect you to choose sides. We all have friends for different reasons, some will be closer some not.

Although i guess it depends what the arguement was about. For example if friend two has been shagging friend ones husband.. maybe tell her where to stick the friendship!

if anyone suggested to me that i should stop beingfriends with someone because they had fallen out I would regard them as astonishingly childish and stupid.

Tell your friends not to be ridiculous, you have all presumeably left infant school?

YANBU. You are the only one displaying any maturity. Explain that to your mutual friends if they ask you to take sides. Be sure to use very small words

YANBU. Its up to you who you want to be friends with, not to be dictated to by someone else just because they have fallen out with that person.

Tell friend 1 its not your argument and you don't want to hear anymore about it.

Just out of curiousity, what was the argument?

No we are not 12 (the wrong side of 30 - too close to 40 more like!!) but to be honest at times recently it has felt like it!!

To me logically the argument had nothing to do with me (and definietly no shagging involved - I would have much more sympathy if it were!!) so I just assumed my friednships with them would carry on.

She hasn't outright asked me not to be friends, just seems upset that I would even consider carrying on a friendship with someone she thinks has acted so unreasonably.

I think the whole situation has got so ridiculous (and the original falling out really is something you would have expected in the playground) that I was starting to wonder if I really was being unreasonable.

Obviously I didn't really think IABU (do any posters who post in this section!) as my logical adult brain was telling me that it was not my place to get involved and I have gone out of my way to be the jolly friend to both of them who can make inane conversation about the weather etc when I think the conversation may steer towards "the falling out"!

I will stop stressing - and if Friend 1 is really a good friend she will get over me and Friend 2 still being friends.