v cross that DH didn't use the car seat

[gingerwench]

DH moved my car off the drive into the road outside the house, moved some stuff indoors then moved the car back. He did so, allowing DS (2 yrs old), to sit in the front passenger seat as a bit of fun.

I'm fuming. He thinks I'm mainly cross because it will be the devil of a job to get DS to sit in his car seat now he thinks he doesn't have to. There is that, but mainly I'm cross because I think it is irresponsible to even take the slightest risk of a car accident.

OUr road is quiet residential but not a cul de sac. He says its the sort of thing his dad did with him. But I think things were different in the 70s yes?

I asked him to promise not to do it again but he hasn't.

YANBU. I would be absolutly fuming.

It sounds like he was only on the car matter of minutes...seconds?
Did he have a seatbelt on?
The fact that your road is a quiet cul de sac leads me to believe that ....YABU

RTFP.

YDNBU END OF.

YANBU.

YABU if he was the only car on the road.

At all.

It will have made it harder for next time if the child doesn't like the seat and once you get slack with one thing on time, it is so much easier to think, oh it doesn't matter it id only a 5 minute drive..

My Dad wrote off one of family cars reversing out of our driveway in a private road straight into someone visiting a neighbour YANBU

I think asking your husband to promise not to do something again is a bit babyish isn't it?

I am sure he has been told off already- asking him to promise not to do it again too is a bit much

I've done this with DS - when I moved the car about 20 yards on our very quiet road. Even at 2 he was old enough to understand that it was a bit of "naughtiness" which wasn't going to be a regular occurance.

Really depends how far he was moving it.

I'd have been cross too. Most accidents happen near the home. However, you need to let it go now. I am sure he is well aware of how annoyed you (rightly) are. Don't persue the 'promise' thing - you'll just end up fighting. If he gets how annoyed you are, he won't do it again and hopefully will get the message.

Ffs, he's still alive isn't he? Just wait till he's climbing trees. Me thinks you need to chill.

Depends, does the car have a passenger airbag?

If yes, then YANBU if no then YABU.

You can't expect grown ups to promise you they won't do something again, exactly what are you going to do about it if he continues? Leave him?

Most accidents happen near the home - true but I'll that very few happen in a car travelling less than 5 miles an hour for about 20 feet!

I would love to know how far and fast he went.

I think you are over reacting a little. My dd loves sitting on my lap and 'driving' sometimes.

In my road, cars can only drive at 10mph ish anyway, so the worst thats going to happen is a little nudge.

My kids are allowed the run of the car too when we are at a safari park. Its part of the innoccence of being a kid!

We used to sit on Mum/Dad's lap and "drive" the couple of kilometres from the entrance to our property to the house.

I can remember doing this from very very young and can remember my little brother doing it when a toddler.

Isn't it the law that you take your seatbelt off in a Safari Park?

If their road is residential but not cul de sac, i'm guessing its 30mph? If you have a crash at 30, its equivalent to falling from a 3rd storey window.

The car was on the road, so another car could easily have hit it. YANBU

He drove out of the drove and parked on the road. I doubt he even made it up to 30

Do you think OP has gone to put DH on the naughty step?

I think you are overeacting a bit.

Not only does it not sound terribly risky, he is your DH's child too. If this was your PILs who had done it, I would say "your child; your rules" but as he is your DH's child too you have to understand that your DH may have different views on some things. Which doesn't mean you can't try to bring him round to your way of seeing things, but "fuming" is a bit much.

You def need to chill. Your poor dh and ds.

our road is a crescent (so no passing traffic just people driving to houses in teh street. Its actually rhombus shaped (blimey when was the last time I used "rhombus"!) with two fairly tight corners and shortish distances between the corners. Anyone who can get above 10 miles and hoursshould I suspect be headhunted by MacLaren (cars not prams)

hmm DS quite often sits on DH's knee as he puts the car in the garage, it's never occured to me to be concerned before.

He's probably going slower than DS goes on his bike - realistically, what could happen?

Thanks for the responses. we were busy with bath and bedtime, not arguing any further.

We've both cooled down a little and no I'm not pursuing the "promise you won't do it again line" AGREE that sounds childish. We very rarely argue and we've both agreed to think about it. It's probably the first time we've had a completely different view of risk. For some reason I am chilled about tree climbing etc which is probably more risky...

It was just round the corner from the drive. I think I maintain the view that it is not good to give DS an idea that he can ever not be strapped in but yes I probably over-reacted.