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to be annoyed that the person I share a room with at work was sick into her bin for 4 hours rather than go home?!

105 replies

ElizabethWakefield · 24/05/2010 14:52

I'm not sure I possibly can be, but I feel like I need a rant anyway!

Colleague came in at 9am this morning feeling ill, she then proceeded to puke in her bin, on and off between sleeping with her head on her desk, for 4 hours!

I share an office with her, the office has no windows but is "climate controlled" and was stinking! I repeatedly told her she should go home, but she said she wouldn't unless someone came to collect her and she couldn't get a hold of anyone, so she continued to sit and puke (not emptying the bin at any point.

Finally I had to go and ask our acting manager to actually send her home as I couldn't stand being in the office any longer, or to at least go and sit in the sick room. But again she refused. Finally 4 and a bit after the first time she threw up, someone came to pick her up!

Now I am not the best with vomit, slightly phobic, but surely that is unhygienic and just horrible.

There were other people coming into our office finding her either puking or sleeping, which looks awful!

Colleague gets annoyed with people when they use sick leave as she feels you should be at work unless you are literally dying, I feel you should not come into work when that ill. I want someone to say to her that in future she needs to stay off when she is like that, or at least go home (work pay to send you home in a taxi if ill btw)

So am I horribly unsympathetic (to be fair i was sympathetic the first time it happened, 4 hours later, I wasn't!) and irrationally annoyed by this (as i said a bit phobic so not really rational) or do i have a fair point?

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sethstarkaddersmum · 24/05/2010 15:11

might she be pregnant and not wanting to tell anyone? If that were the case she would know she was not going to spread a vomiting bug, even if nobody else knew.
I agree she was wrong though - not fair on everyone else.

ElizabethWakefield · 24/05/2010 15:11

She doesn't drink alcohol at all, so I don't think it was a hangover, although i would have preferred it to be!!

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ElizabethWakefield · 24/05/2010 15:12

Too old to be pregnant either!

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DuelingFanjo · 24/05/2010 15:13

why did you wait so long to get hte manager!!

blergh!

ElizabethWakefield · 24/05/2010 15:14

I got the manager after 2 hours (he was at a meeting until then) and the she said for another 2 and a bit.

I spent as much time as possible out of the office.

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belledechocolatefluffybunny · 24/05/2010 15:21

How did she manage to get into work if she was vomiting?

ThreadKillerQueen · 24/05/2010 15:30

YADNBU Yuk yuk yuk!

expatinscotland · 24/05/2010 15:33

The acting manager should have ordered her off.

I second MadameDeathStar's suggestions.

porcamiseria · 24/05/2010 15:35

do you have a H&S rep? maybe let them know in a non blaming way, but sau its not acceptable that people are not sent home ASAP!

puddinghead · 24/05/2010 15:50

Sick in the BIN??! Why on earth could she not get to the toilet? Has the woman no shame; does she have other unsavoury habits you have to put up with?

herbietea · 24/05/2010 15:53

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mrspir8 · 24/05/2010 16:18

Weird behaviour-what on earth was she trying to gain- puking and sleeping at your desk gets nothing done and doesn't impress anyone.

bibbitybobbityhat · 24/05/2010 16:22

I absolutely would have gone home and refused to come back to work until she was out of my office.

Wtf was she thinking of? Its so bizarre.

xstitch · 24/05/2010 16:41

YANBU enough said

WingedVictory · 24/05/2010 16:52

How the hell did she have the strength to be so pigheaded if she was vomming so much?!

SlartyBartFast · 24/05/2010 16:56

disgusting ahd shocking.
you need an incident form
and H & S.

ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 24/05/2010 16:59

That is so gross and actually so selfish. I was pregnant and working once (ha! ) and tried to soldier on but I went to the toilet to be sick. Once I could forgive if she was suddenly ill, but sitting there for four hours puking into a bin?! I'd at least have waited in the loos. Or outside in the fresh air but maybe not if I was throwing up often. That is disgusting, totally disgusting.

muggglewump · 24/05/2010 17:02

No way.
I'm emetophobic so I wouldn't have put up with it.
I'd have left the room and then insisted she left.
I'm a cleaner, in a Care Home, yet they can accommodate my emetophobia there so they surely could where you work?

TotalChaos · 24/05/2010 17:06

yanbu. how utterly disgusting. can't believe if she was in that state that she didn't go to the toilet or medical room. presenteeism at its worst - as she was hardly capable of getting work done....

fatoftheland · 24/05/2010 17:25

That is vile. I would have kicked up a stink of my own and refused to work in the room until the selfish little mare had gone.

MadamDeathstare · 24/05/2010 18:15

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slowshow · 24/05/2010 18:26

That is horrific. I'm phobic as well, and I wouldn't have been able to stay within 50 metres of her, let alone sit in the same office.

I hope she doesn't have norovirus, because your whole office could come down with it in a matter of hours

MumNWLondon · 24/05/2010 19:19

Thats vile.

Someone should have sent her home right away. I would have called HR (if boss was away) and said I was going home if she wasn't - I start wretching if anyone vomits so I couldn't have coped with being there. She should have been puking toilet if didn't want to go home.

HecateQueenOfWitches · 24/05/2010 19:24

who cleaned the bin out?

autodidact · 24/05/2010 19:27

Good grief. I think you were extremely restrained. Why on earth didn't she vomit alone in the loo like any normal person?