Having ds friends sister round

[iMum]

Really quickly and in brief.

Last week ds1(8) had his mate over to play, when his mum collected him (they are new friends so only 2nd play date) she mentioned that next time could her dd (5) stay to play as well I said well why dont you (mum) come in as well and have a coffee etc. She agreed but said that she would have my ds back to play on such and such a day but would have my other 2 as they are too young (almost 4 and 1.5) but on the day her dd was poorly so although her ds came over to play dd and mum didnt.
Today I am having her son over to play again (my ds has been to their house in the meantime) and I have had a text asking me if her dd came come into play as well.
I said no problem as it isnt realy but I cant shake the feeling that I am being used for a few hours childcare? I also feel a bit odd as I dont know this little girl at all, my ds doesnt really either and ds and his mate just go upto ds room and shut the door so I'm not sure what she will do really i feel like I will have to entertain when really ive got alot on anyway with my 2 littlies - I recently gave up childminding for this very reason!

Sorry should say would NOT have my other two!

Say no next time (if there is a next time)

but how to say no without causing friction?

I should mention that they seem a lovely family but I felt really put on the spot!

I think she is being really cheeky, and it does sound like she is using you as free childcare!

You must explain that the boys tend to run off and leave her dd to her own devices. Tell her not sure the dd really enjoyed the playdate. Is she looking for free childcare -- yup, think she might be!

This seems so cheeky!

I would say 'yes' as long as the mum stays too as you can't cope with them all there together on your own (although, I am sure you are perfectlt capable really )

If she is this cheeky, she is probably also quite thick skinned, so I wouldn't worry about offending her.

MrsOCD has suggested a very tactful way out.
The other mum is probably being nagged badly by the little girl.

What a cheek - to me the only real benefit of having a friend round to play is that I do not have to do any enertaining. Perhaps the little girl will play with your 4 yr old?

Sounds like it's convenient to her to get free childcare, while you don't get the same from her. Next time, just say "Oh no, it didn't work out last time as the boys wanted to go off and do their own thing".