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42 replies

Mittz · 24/05/2010 14:19

When I joined MN my life was in a really bad bad place. But especially for my poor DS who had massive emotional and anger management issues. He self harmed, talked of suicide and every day was an emotional roller coaster from which I could not see us ever getting off.

Last week his case was closed by CAMHS, and today, the SW are coming to also formally close his case as over the last year, he and I have worked so hard to get to a much much better place.

The support from MN has been simply overwhelming, any time night or day, there is someone there to make you laugh, feel better, listen, advise, hug or just wish you well, and it has given me strength and courage to continue on the journey when sometimes, I simple wanted to quit.

For myself, I have a long way to go. But at 12, whilst sometimes challenging, my beautiful DS is funny, bright, energetic and enthusiastic and I am so very immensely proud of him.

So thank you, every one who has ever posted whether just to give a nod of support or much appreciated advise, from the very bottom of my heart.

Mittz xx

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caramelwaffle · 25/05/2010 20:55

Well done to both of you

shabbapinkfrog · 25/05/2010 23:13

I had to come back and read this thread again

I had the same problems with my DS1 many moons ago (he is now 28 and a wonderful father to his 2 year old DS) because of bereavements in the close family he was so very sad and depressed. BUT we made it through and he is a wonderful, strong man now.

Just had to come back and offer my congratulations again....stay strong and talk about everything. Share tears and laughter....I think its the only way.

Oh yes and mine and DS1's song was always 'No matter what' by Boyzone.

Well done again....please hug your DS from me xxxx

Tortington · 25/05/2010 23:15

nice one.

Mittz · 25/05/2010 23:17

Because he has had so much attention, he still feels that he is somehow 'not normal' .

As I chatted to him in bed, I was trying to reassure him, and also express that 'normal' is a myth. But he is adamant that there is something in his head that makes him strange.

So I asked him, to think of all the people in the world that he knows, to tell me who he most admired and aspired to be like as a guide to being 'normal'.

He said ''you Mum, you are awesome''.

This time last year, I went in one morning to find him in bed with his dressing gown cord around his neck.

I hope in the very least, I have set him free from whatever darkness put him in that place.. bless him.

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Mittz · 25/05/2010 23:18
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VengefulKitty · 25/05/2010 23:23

Aww, that is lovely to hear. Well done to both of you and thank you for sharing

shabbapinkfrog · 25/05/2010 23:26

You cant ask for more than your child thinking you are awesome.

My heart was in my mouth when I read the end of your post. I think you have freed him from an awful dark place....I also think that the way forward is talking, talking and more talking. My DS4 has been having some verbal bullying at High school. On one of those 'Nanny 911' programmes I saw an idea that worked for us.

I got a notepad. I put it in DS4's bedroom with a brand new pen. I told him that if there was something he couldn't tell me that was worrying him he just had to write it down in the notepad. I said that it was just between us two and I would check every day and I would write my feelings as well. We only had to use it for a couple of days and then he opened up to me. It worked for us....maybe that could help with your precious boy?????

I think they called it a 'Feelings book' on the programme.

I hope you both go from strength to strength xxxxx

AnyFucker · 26/05/2010 07:25

oh eck...I'm off again...

I have just put my mascara on !

HanBanan · 26/05/2010 08:51

Top mum, top kid. Well done and best of luck for the future.

Mittz · 26/05/2010 14:53

Shabba, that is a brilliant idea because while we are close, he can still bottle things up before he gets around to telling me. Glad your DS4 is getting there .. thanks..

Sorry AF .... I stopped wearing it for a long time. I have never been able to that 'flappy' thing that some women seem to be able to do to stop their tears from coming.

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RunawayWife · 26/05/2010 14:59

So glad things are on the up for you and your DS
xx

shabbapinkfrog · 26/05/2010 15:10

Meant to say that the book is still in DS4's bedroom - we both know where it is. He will be 13 in July so I think we will be using it for the foreseeable future LOL xx

Bumperliouzzzzzz · 26/05/2010 15:21

That's great new, well done to both of you.

RedLentil · 26/05/2010 16:24

How fantastic. Your strength is really inspiring.

Do you know, the change in your voice on here over the last 12 months has been incredible. You sound so positive now and your belief in your own ability to change things shines through.

When I read your threads last year I felt too new to step in and comment, so I hope you don't mind if I doff my mn cap to you now.

Doodlez · 26/05/2010 16:26

Brilliant and well done to you both

Mittz · 26/05/2010 16:29

thank you RedLentil, what a lovely thing to say.

I hope you are finding MN to be as rich and colourful a tapestry as I find it to be x

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elliemental · 27/05/2010 11:37

sorry but lololol at flappy thing! That never works for me either. I end up looking like a deranged person, as well as looking like a sunburned pig because of crying....

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