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to be outraged my FIL sent me a racist joke

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yellowflowers · 24/05/2010 12:16

My Father in law and I sometimes communicate by email to make arrangements for me and dh and FIL and MIL to meet, so he has my email address. Yesterday he forwarded me a joke he'd been sent by someone else. It's a racist joke against people wearing a burkha. It had no message or comment from him though def not a virus so I can only assume he thought I would find it funny. I am outraged.

Should I ignore it do you think or reply saying I don't think it is appropriate. I am pregnant with first and of course if he ever says something racist in front of baby once born I will object, but in terms of keeping the peace now shall I just ignore it unless he brings it up? Trouble is, I feel ignoring it is tacitly agreeing that it is funny when it really isn't.

It is a joke that is doing the rounds btw - my dh says he was shown it by someone at work. He agrees FIL should not have sent it but thinks best to just ignore it.

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biddysmama · 24/05/2010 12:18

i would pretend to assume it was a virus (iyswim?) and contact him to warn him about the virus that sent you an inapproprite joke..

singsinthebath · 24/05/2010 12:19

My BIL does lots of email jokes. I just told him not to send me the racist/sexist/sick ones. He told me I had no sense of humour. We agreed to differ.
It depends if you feel comfortable having that conversation.
Or you could just say, please don't send my joke emails as I'm worried about getting a virus if you want a cop out.

yellowflowers · 24/05/2010 13:12

that's a good idea biddysmama and also singsinthebath.

The way my fil is though (ie quite odd) I think maybe ignoring it is better. Woe betide him if he brings it up though!

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suitejudyblue · 24/05/2010 13:18

I wouldn't say anything, just don't open any more emails from him.
Both my parents and PIL are from a generation that thinks very differently to the way we do now and will often make what I consider to be racist remarks (nothing really offensive but just a general attitude). I've given up saying anything to them I just try to ensure that the DCs don't hear the comments and luckily don't see them enough for it to be a big issue.

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