AIBU to use the pregnancy card when I don't need to?

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I'm 8 months pregnant and I haven't made a habit of 'milking' this fact. I don?t blame my mood swings on pregnancy hormones (I was hormonal before I got pregnant so why would I use that now?), when I?m on public transport I don?t approach people for their seat (that?s just rude) ? but nonetheless occasionally I pull out the pregnancy card. Like this morning when a pair of Jehovah's Witnesses woke me from my slumber. ?I?m sorry but I?m 8 months pregnant and need to get back to sleep? I said then shut the door firmly as they were about the launch into some verse or other. Yeah I know, my bad.

So my question is: is it unreasonable to use the pregnancy card when you don?t have to?

Under what circumstances would it be justified to use the pregnancy card?

at 8 months pregnant you are allowed to use it whenever you please

YANBU using pg as an excuse now and then

BUT YABVVVVVU using the term "my bad" - arggghhh!!!!!

Nope i would have done the same lol

Why all the question marks in my post? Grrr.

Because you copied the text & didn't type it in direcly.

directly

Ahh I see Floopy.

There was a bug in the form that you post a thread with so I had to type in notepad and then paste it.

I am 39+6 and have blatantly used the pregnancy card twice that i can think of. First was when a rude bint pushed in front of us in a queue for a table in a restaurant. I pointed out to the waiter that she had butted in, which I wouldn't normally have done because I would have been scared that she would have argued with me, but i felt pretty confident that she wouldn't have stood arguing with a heavily pregnant woman so I plucked up the courage to say something.
Second, I stupidly decided to walk to see the midwife last week when the weather was a bit dodgy and got caught in an awful downpour. I got soaked through because I was too huge to walk home quickly, and on the way some idiot woman tried to stop me in the street to do some survey and I said 'I'm sorry I am too wet and too pregnant to stop for this' and stomped off.
I think I was justified in both those circumstances but maybe not?
I think you were definitely justified to use the pregnancy card this morning!

blondewithbump what was the outcome of the restaurant scenario?

YANBU to play the card.
YAB a bit U to say turfing people out of their seats on public transport is rude though, I couldn't manage my journey to work without it. If tube carriage is full and nobody stands, I head for whoever's in the priority seat and say "I could do with sitting there please, unless you need it yourself". That doesn't seem rude to me .

She spun around, saw the bump, blushed and apologised! My DP nearly fell over because I am really not the sort of person to speak up with something like that (I would normally huff and puff behind someones back but not say anything ) but I did think in this case that she was rude as there was an obvious queue, and as the restaurant was full and working on a first come first seated basis i didn't fancy waiting any longer for a table than I really had to!

puddock the only time anyone has had the balls to turf me out of my seat on public transport was when I was a teen and an old man come up to me demanding my seat. I thought it was rude.

How do you manage to do it? I wouldn't have the courage.

YANBU to play the card.

I think it's perfectly fine to ask someone to give up their seat on public transport, especially as most trains and buses have seats especially reserved for elderly, disabled or pg people. The way I look at it is, I try and give up my seat if I think someone needs it and I wouldn't mind being asked, so why not? You don't get to play the pregnancy card for that long after all! I'm 16 weeks and don't have a visible bump yet so haven't asked anyone, but I do have a 'bump on board' badge and if anyone offers me their seat I am v grateful! I would just do what puddock says, sounds v polite to me.

The way I look at it is (and I know I'll get flamed for this) I chose to get pregnant. It was my choice, so why should other people have to suffer for my choice? Someone could have had a long hard day at work and their feet have blisters and then get approached by a pregnant woman for their seat.

Doesn't seem fair. We all have to endure our choices.

If it's a choice then they could have chosen to wear more comfortable shoes

You are entitled to the priority seat as you're growing the next generation for them to pay for their retirement - get them to move.

It's harder growing a baby in this heat than a few blisters.

I had a couple of Jehovah's witnesses to my door just last week, I was mid-mopping spilled something-or-another, so had kitchen roll in my hand and screaming kiddies in the background - one of them said "Oh, I see you're quite busy with your baby" and the other peered at my two DCs and then looked at my (non -pregnant!!) tummy and said "oh yes, and one on the way" !!!!!! but rather than put her right (I am pg, but only a few weeks and belly is just flubberbelly , I said "yes, so if you'll excuse me!"

Now that may be a tad unreasonable ~ using the pg card when I'm not even outwardly pg!!

Not unreasonable at all. I intend to use it whenever i need. I am 30 wks and have already used it to get an air con unit in my office and permission to work from home three mornings to avoid the rush hour.

However i find it unneccessary most of the tine as i have found people to be very polite, considerate and thoughtful. It is my first pregnancy and this has been a pleasant surprise, especially as i live in central london.

YANBU but you are BU to even suggest that you shouldn't have done this.

THEY are being incredibly rude by forcing to you come to the door to hear their views! I loathe anyone coming to my door to sell me goods or their opinions though.

I would have used the pg card here when explaining to them how rude they are!

SeaTrek - their coming to the door and offering discussion is not rude; after all, we can all easily decline said offer.