to be annoyed that friend can't find the games?

[macdoodle]

I think I probably am but??
Good friend, DD's good friends, a few years ago (yes I know), my DD1 passed some of the old, easier DS games to her DD (I can specifically remember 3 - a Princess one, a Dora one, and a Nemo one all age 3+, but there were most likely more)! Anyway they were just kinda passed between the girls as my DD1 had moved on to harder ones.
There was no real adult discussion as to whether these were given/loaned etc.

Anyway DD2 is now hankering after DD1's DS game, but is really too little for her own, but have found an old gameboy that will fit the games above. So asked friend if she thought we could have them back, she kinda shrugged, had a feeble look around, and said oh they're here somewhere, but so far is yet to find them !

AIBU to really not want to buy new games for little ones, when there should be at least 3 perfectly good ones kncoking around somewhere, or AIBU to expect her to stil have them now a few years later?

I am sure people will say you are but I don't think so. It would be better if your friend told you the truth about why she no longer has them.

To be fair, DD2 wasnt born at the time they were passed over so she couldnt have known I would need/want them back!

I dont think she has done anything with them (I hope not that would make me cross actually), more she just cant be bothered to look properley for them, which is annoying me...

if she didn't expect to give them back and has lost them or given them away then she should be honest and say so.

I think you're being unreasonable to be honest. They were given to your friend's child and it is now several years later. Why don't you ask if her girl has any that she no longer plays, that she might pass down to your dd2?

None of my dds could lay their hands on any of the 50+ ds games we have bought over the years - they are so small and easily get lost. So I think YABU. Look on Ebay - you can pick up some old games for £2.

AGREE WITH THE POST ABOVE, (oops capsYANBU TO feel miffed about it, but I think by the sounds of it you are wasting your time fretting over it..........they probably ended up on e-bay, or have been passed on elsewhere...& perhaps you'd do better to put your energy into trying to find replacements on there yourself........perhaps different slightly more current games, just in case you MAY eventually get them back....but don't hold your breath

I've been through similar with 2 freinds, so DO understand how p'd off you might feel, but TBH, if there was no formal agreement that they were a loan, then you can't really expect much in return, though I agree...honesty might be nice

I LOANED DDs hardly worn, grown out of clothes to a male friend & his partner for their own DD who was younger, they were skint I did make it very clear they were expected bac........... I asked for the stuff back ages later as none of it had been offered & as my Cousin was pregnant with a Girl, & I wanted to pass them on to her............ only after asking several times & making a fuss did I get anything back, & none of it was the mostly expensive designer stuff they had been loaned..........but some awful stuff I'd remembered the Mum complaining her own Mum kept buying......... found out from others, un beknown to the Dad, Mum had put the lot on e-bay

Perhaps in your friend's mind they were a gift as you hadn't specifically said you wanted them back.

It might be worth buying replacements or similar age games rather than upsetting yourself and your friend?

If you were to ask me where the chips were for our old Leappad toy, or those for dd's 2nd hand Gameboy, my answer would proably also be a vague "Oh they're here somewhere".

Unless there was any sort of understanding that the chips would eventually be returned to you then I'm afraid YABU. She can't be expected to keep track of every little toy her dc has.

As it was never made clear that you only loaned the games I think YABU to be upset at not getting them back several years later. If at the time you had stated they were only on loan then you would have ever right to be upest now, but as you didnt, you dont.

YABU - in thinking that she's going to know exactly where they are 'right now' if she lives in a somewhat disorganised house, but YANBU to ask her to look for them, to see if she has them so you don't have to buy more games.

If I were you I'd tell her that you would really like the games for DD if she still has them or else you will have to go and buy some new ones this week, which you'd really rather not have to if she knows where the others are.... but if she doesn't you will...

As others have said, they're really cheap on Ebay!