Need some unbiased opinions please. Hubby suffers very badly with a condition that leaves him in quite a bit of pain, it flares up very often and without warning, and so far doctors have not been able to stop it. So his brother is getting married in July. They live abroad. We had intended to go (have room booked) but now he won't go for fear that it flares up while we are away. He would have to do quite a bit of driving so this can be one of the causes, and we would be away from his own doctor and him almost unable to walk for several days.
(sorry it is going on a bit, bear with me if you can)!
So MIL rings yesterday and asks me would I fly over with her, bring the two kids. I fractured my spine a few years ago (I am just realising how we sound as a couple and am unable to lift youngest DD (she is 5 months) very often, I do it at home from buggy to car seat to cot when hubby is not here, but if we are out and about hubby does the carrying and lifting. I told her I wouldn't go and explained the reasons (which she knows) and anyway I would not be happy to go without husband. Shes after ringing and telling me she is very disappointed in me for not going. This has annoyed me quite a bit and there hasn't been any mention of her disappointment in hubby. She told me there would be no lifting and carrying of DD (she must forget what a 5 month old is like) and if there was she would do it (she is 70 years old). She is quite capable of travelling on her own as she is just back from holiday so that is not a factor in it.
I am feeling very guilty, while hubby is not batting an eyelid, nor does he care who is annoyed, even though they are his family, not mine. They probably think I am an ackward old hag now. Honestly, AIBU? Should I go for familys sake?