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to be offended by MIL?

35 replies

meandollie · 21/05/2010 11:33

Gargh! Venting to follow I'm afraid! SO

She's not actually my mil as dp and I aren't married, but we've been together 7 years so it's easier to call her mil. She Is so bitchy! A few months ago I was ill with a bad stomache bug and was in my PJ's at 10am when she came around to pick up ds for the day. She called me "lazy" for going back to bed to try and sleep it off whilst ds was out for the day!
Ever since she's been making insinuations about how I'm 'lazy'. e.g she was on the phone to dp the other week (she only ever calls when she wants something) and asked whhat I was doing, if I was dressed, if I'd been out that day....! I was fucking fuming. I hadn't been out that day because I was waiting for a delivery, I was dressed and I was playing with ds - she managed to make it sound like I was lazy and doing wrong by ds.

yesterday, I'd been joking with my cousin oon Facebook about how my arse is huge and I couldn't walk after being on my rowing machine. She saw this and commented saying something patronising about how it'll get easier in a few weeks....if you keep at it that lonng!!!! I replied explaining I was joking with him and I'd had the rower for months to which she replied "ah, but how often do you use it, haha!!!!" I said "every day". Now she's saying oh good, you'll have to come for a run with me when you're over if you're fit enough!

It probably sounds really petty to you from a diferent perspective but it's driving me nuts! I'm not lazy and I find it really insulting to be accused of it.

Sorry for the rant!

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MadamDeathstare · 21/05/2010 14:40

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JenniPenni · 21/05/2010 14:43

diddl I agree with all you say, spot on!

Re the post: Sounds like MIL is stalking... checking your FB... asking her son re you.. hmmm!!! Alarm bells. BLOCK her on FB. At least that part of your life will be yours and yours alone

mamatomany · 21/05/2010 15:00

Family and facebook don't mix IME

meandollie · 21/05/2010 15:04

I have her as a friend of FB because I post pictures of ds for our friends and family to see as we've moved 350 miles away. Facebook hasn't been an issue until now, she's not usually on it unless I've told her there's some new piictures or videos on there. If this continues though I won't hesitate to do something about it. We shall see...

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JenniPenni · 21/05/2010 15:10

Why don't you start a new FB account purely for family photos and videos... totally separate from your personal account? Or show pics through DP's FB account rather?

poppymouse · 21/05/2010 15:21

I think you should absolutely play up to it:
"What have I been up to? Oh you know me, taking it easy as per usual, get up in time for Jeremy Kyle, eating cake all day" but definitely with a carefree laugh as if nothing has ever troubled you less than the possibility she thinks you are lazy. I cannot see her getting much satisfaction from antagonising you then. I think she'll keep it up for a while, join in for a bit, then give up.

meandollie · 21/05/2010 15:31

I'm not going to start another account just for pics etc because it's too much effort tbh (see I am lazy!) I use FB because it's quick and easy. If she keeps on using FB to make digs at me, I'll just blok her from being able to see me statuses etc.

poppymouse I like your way of thinking! The responses I've given her so far have been done with a light hearted air (smilies etc), I think that telling her that she's getting to me or shouting at her will just give her more satisfaction and ammunition against me.

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diddl · 21/05/2010 15:38

Block her & let your husband put pics up.

Thediaryofanobody · 21/05/2010 15:44

YANBU she sounds like a bully who's trying to get you down. I'd cut myself off from her tbh no one needs that type of poison in their life.

minipen · 21/05/2010 15:48

you could block her from your FB update sso she could see pics but now what you have written

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