being TOLD that the garden is being turned into a business

[duejuly2010]

A couple of days ago my DP announced that he's starting a new business selling stuff on ebay. I said we'd need to talk about it - money implications blah blah.

Today he's bought a load of stuff which has taken over the garden and announced I have no choice.

I'm so pissed off! Firstly that we havent talked about it and second that the garden's a state. I'm 7 months preg with 2 kids and want a nice garden to sit in/spend time together in!

He only moved in a few months ago and it feels like he's just gonna do what the hell he likes. Hethinks it'll be for 6 months until 'the business' takes off and he gets a unit.

Am I being unreasonable - feel REALLY ANGRY!

tell him to shift the stuff within a week or you'll call a man in a van to take it to the tip.

AND STICK TO IT

Can you tell him that bad weather will ruin the items and he will get less money for them? Or have to pay refund?

What are the items? (nosey)

Does he have any ebay experience?

Does he have another job?

No you are NOT being unreasonable! He moved in with you? Into your house? In your name? And he's telling you be quiet woman, I'll do what I like and you have no say in the matter?

I'd be having a serious chat with him about this! What else does he feel you have no say in?

Who the hell does he think he is?

He only moved in a few months ago but does things like this without asking?

I'd be tempted to throw him and the stuff into the nearest skip tbh.

Sorry for lack of reply, having a major argument!

Yep, I would get rid of him and his stuff!

well at least he's trying to make some money!

if it were me i would be compromising. presumably you wanted to live with him? and want to build a future together>

if not then kick him and his stuff out, if you do then think of it from his POV too.

sit down and talk about it like adults. make him put a shed up or something, or see if he can store some at someone else's house.

YANBU He sure has managed to get his feet under the table hasn't he?!
Frankly I wouldn't want to have a relationship with someone who makes decisions that effect me greatly and then tells me tough it's done, I'd show him the door.

You appear to have made a poor choice of partner and have had him move in with you too quick.

If this is not the sort of relationship you want (where you're not consulted or have your opinions taken into consideration) then get rid of the relationship now.