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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

or hormonal?

11 replies

strawberrycake · 20/05/2010 12:41

I'm due today to have my dc. Not a twinge. Unsurprisingly I'm fed up with my whale-like status and getting grumpy.

I have been getting have you had it yet texts and messages for a week, I'v begun ignoring them. Why they think I'd secretly have the baby without mentioning it to anyone I don't know.... I've even left an update on facebook asking people not to ask as it's getting me down, I'll tell them straight away.

One friend is particularly sending me over the edge. I've been ignoring her calls for a few days now as I'm fed up to the back teeth with being asked in a disappointed voice by everyone if I'm STILL pregnant. I've told her weeks ago I'm getting fed up and when people ask it's rubbing it in that I'm feeling so huge and tired and baby-less. Today her text said that she will be visiting (she moved away a few years ago, few hundred miles away) with finance (who I'm not particularly keen on) on Friday or Saturday to see the (as yet unborn!) baby. Asked me to chose which day was best. AIBU in thinking this is way out of line? Firstly I may not have even had the bloody baby (seems likely...) and secondly even if I have I might not want a visit, especially if there's difficulties. I know it's a long journey and she won't be around again for weeks, but I still think it's off. I sent back 'hang on, I'll look into my crystal ball and see if he has been born and how I feel'. She's in a big huff and said I was unreasonable as she was 'only asking' (for the zillionth time) and 'it's the only time I'm free to see the baby'. So...who's unreasonable?

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strawberrycake · 20/05/2010 12:45

Oh, and a disclaimer: I am very hormonal and narky. Apologies in advance if needed...

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Weta · 20/05/2010 12:46

You don't sound unreasonable at all. Your friend sounds like she has no idea!

KurriKurri · 20/05/2010 12:47

She is. People who descend on heavily pregnant women, or one who has just given birth are utterly clueless.

VinegarTits · 20/05/2010 12:49

'its the only time shes free to see the baby' i would tell her to fuck the fuck off

i think your reply was tame comapred to what i would have said

Sidge · 20/05/2010 12:50

She is totally unreasonable.

Text back again saying "I anticipate this baby being with us for some time as I am not aware that my uterus has a returns policy, therefore you can visit next time you are down this way."

strawberrycake · 20/05/2010 12:50

Oh thank you for not saying 'oh she's only trying to be nice...'

Really, I am remaining a hermit until I have the baby, whoever comes looking. Well apart from talking to my Dad, he's great because he till hasn't got his head round the idea of being a grandad so he's in no rush!

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strawberrycake · 20/05/2010 12:51

I think I am unabe to text back without swearing. So I'm remaining silent. I know the rage will pour out if I start...my handle on sanity is tenuous.

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VinegarTits · 20/05/2010 12:53

and i would tell her she is the one who is unreasonble to try and fit you and your unborn baby around her plans, silly woman

'ooh hang on ill just pop him out before friday so you can visit'

i would be hoping your baby stays put until next week so you can avoid her altogether

VinegarTits · 20/05/2010 12:55

i've no idea why i said 'him', are you having a boy? am i psycic?

lilsteel1 · 20/05/2010 12:55

strawbeerycake you are completely in your right to tell them to clear off, the last thing you need is a reminder that Dc has not yet arrived and that you are still like a whale.

hope DC makes an appearance very soon and hopefully once your dad gets that he will be grandad very soon.

take care

strawberrycake · 20/05/2010 12:57

Maybe you are vinegar tits!

Dad will be a great Grandad, just needs to see it to believe I think.

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