To not understand why....

[chaostrulyreigns]

Someone I know lets her 6yo DS watch 15 DVDs.

Regularly.

I try hard to be very fair and unjudgey in life but I really cannot understand why a parent would make this choice. Could someone pleade enlighten me as I'm not entering into conversation with her about it as I'm not very articulate in RL. She does know that I disapprove as have let her know in a light-hearted fashion.

I know for sure that he's watched Saving Private Ryan and The Transporter films.

The only reason I can come up with is I think some parents think there's a cachet involved in making their children 'cool'.

Before I'm flamed I'm not asking this so I can be judgey, I would seriously like to hear a considered rationale so that I can understand the other point of view. And, therefore, be more in empathy with different parenting choices.

i think there is a difference here, i too am confused like chaos

i CAN get letting your child watch something you have viewed and deemed suitable with supervision even if it might have a older certificate

i CANT understand letting your child just watch anything with a 15+ cert because you can't see it doing any harm - i feel the same about video games.

i wouldn't let her watch 'anything' .. nothing with sex or twisted psychological stuff or anything too graphic like the Saw films but most 15's aren't that bad tbh

I gave you a reason OP: the mother said that her son was interested in that type of film and asked to watch them. Personally I think it's a crap reason but as it's really none of my business (as long as she doesn't allow my kids to watch Predator etc.) I didn't take it any further. If you really want to understand why, you are just going to have to ask your friend the question "why do you let him watch that?". I bet you any money she won't have a convincing answer either.

Not true that you are not articulate, your post is very articulate, you probably just don't like confrontation...

Sorry Endangered - I must have speed read your earlier post.

I'll agree with you that her reason was not very convincing. What would she justify her DS watching if he happened to have a fascination with chainsaws?

I am inarticulate verbally, but I find expressing myself through the written word much easier. You are exactly right with regards to confrontation.

I think honey and others have made a very good point that each situation should be viewed on an individual basis (as I did with Twilight for DD1 - 10yo) but I would imagine parents who veer towards okay-ing inappropriate films may not make the extra effort needed to sit through a film to establish its suitability.

As for the father who lets his children watch his choice because that's what he wants to do on a Saturday afternoon there's only one word for that .

FWIW, I don't let my DDs watch the news either, not appropriate imho.

Let's just smash up our tellys and go and make cupcakes instead.

My DS and DD both 6 have watch most of the films mentioned here and had no problems. Granted I draw the line at horror films. But then they love watching Doctor Who although the weeping angels are a definate no no for them and that is way before the water shed and is family veiwing. A the end of the day my boys were influenced more by power rangeers than anything else they have seen on tv and that is on a kids channel!