to think my mum doesnt know me at all

[biddysmama]

finally booked the wedding, its a small registry office,pie and peas and buffet with disco in a function room do..

told my mum who said " why a small do, i thought you would want the big church do dress,horse and carriage and all that"

the thing is ,i am really really shy, i hate people looking at me, the idea of a wedding at all terrifys me and i havent worn a skirt since i was at school!

i'm also annoyed that she said all this on facebook chat said "oh,ok" when i told her i only wanted a small do, then logged off, no congrats or anything!!

dp's mother on the other hand screamed down the phone at us like a teenager

Why would you break the news of your wedding to your Mum on Facebook Chat?

I admit that this is not a form of communication I am very familiar with but I would have thought a phone call at the very least.

i didnt, i tried to ring her, she didnt answer then got me on chat later..

I think she may have meant : "Oh, I am a little bit disappointed. I wanted a big church do etc etc, but am too polite/passive-aggressive to say it"

Could this be the case?

passive aggresive not polite... this is the same woman who isnt coming to her grandsons confirmation because he has chosen pizza hut for after and she wants a 'proper meal'

I think she meant that that is what she wanted too and has just wiped over her knowledge of your personality and what you may like so she could daydream about her daughter's big day.

She'll get over it. Have a lovely day, enjoy yourself and don't worry about the things you can't change.

Is there anything you do that pleases her? I remember the other thread about pizza hut. i hope you aren't changing your plans to suit her.

My mum is the same. If what I want doesn't coincide with what she wants she tells me that I am wrong and then goes off and has a sulk. She's also done the line of telling me that she knows me better than I know myself and I've obviously made the wrong decision.

Don't bother asking her opinion or listening to her comments these days.

Funnily enough we also wanted a small do for our wedding and were told my my mum that of course we didn't want to do that. She hasn't forgiven me yet (8 years on) but I figure that is her problem.

BTW - your wedding sounds fab