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DH forgot our anniversary

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VoulezVouzCrochezAvecJACK · 19/05/2010 11:50

It's our 5th wedding anniversary tomorrow, we got married 2 days before my birthday so it should be easy to remember considering we have been planning babysitter etc for my birthday for about a month.
But we got a card in the post this morning from MIL (who, even in rehab, managed ot remember in enough time to have a card taken into her to sign and get posted) and DH was really surprised as he had completely forgotten.

Only....well...the thing is...

So had I

AWBU not to bother?

(and also, isn't it weird that other people congratulate you every year, I mean, it wasn't their wedding, but kinda glad she did this year!)

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mumblechum · 19/05/2010 11:52

Well, if you've both forgotten, I wouldn't worry about it.

My mum always sends us a card for our anniversary which is nice but tbh I wouldn't send one to anyone. It's really just between the two of you unless you're having a huge silver wedding party or something.

Oblomov · 19/05/2010 11:58

Dh and I both forgot. was it last year ? we thought that was very sad and couldn't understand how it had happened.

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VoulezVouzCrochezAvecJACK · 19/05/2010 12:03

Cards from other people are weird.

I think it's more because it is so close to my birthday we shouldn't forget, but we always do!
but then we had been togetehr 19 years and always do something to celebrate our first ever date in december so I count that as more of an anniversary.
It is a bit sad though.

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sockmonkey · 19/05/2010 12:04

Happy Anniversary.
I agree if you both forgot, no harm done.

ScreaminEagle · 19/05/2010 12:05

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Callisto · 19/05/2010 12:07

I honestly don't understand why people make such a fuss about wedding anniversaries, or why women get so upset when their husbands forget. It doesn't bother me at all (though I did forget my own 1st wedding anniversary last week...)

fireupthequattro · 19/05/2010 12:07

I never bother TBH and neither does Dh. We got married in the Caribbean and as the day kept changing during our stay (weather took a bad turn) the original date moved and moved again.

So we can't really remember it

If we need to tell anyone I have to get the certificate out

All we know is we had a lovely time. As a couple we can't stand enforced romance - Valentines etc, but that's both of us singing off the same hymnsheet!

Pozzled · 19/05/2010 12:13

My Dh and I usually try and celebrate the day we got together as well as our wedding anniversary (just a nice meal and wine, nothing major). Last year it was our 10 year anniversary but we only realised about three days afterwards. In our defence, it had been a fairly stressful month for us, but still.

addictedisabigsisteragain · 19/05/2010 12:15

my mil sends us a card, and i find it odd.

dh and i dont really make a fuss of our anniversary and usually buy something for the house like a mirror or a picture or a new sofa, rather than getting each other a gift, and i'll cook a nice meal but thats about it.

its a nice day to remember but we dont feel its the be all and end all if one of us forgets.

WhatsAllThisThen · 19/05/2010 12:15

Next year, just remind him!

octopusinabox · 19/05/2010 12:54

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coppertop · 19/05/2010 13:20

I think we've both forgotten ours more often than we've remembered it. Even when we remember we tend not to bother with cards or presents.

pedrothellama · 19/05/2010 13:33

EXDH & I always celebrated our anniversary - years later looking at the marriage certificate I realised we had been celebrating on the wrong day! We got married on the 20th not the 21st.

dmo · 19/05/2010 13:46

dh and i always go away for the night on our wedding anniversary this yr we went abroad for 1 week with no children as we celebrated 15yrs we also got married on the same date we met so only one date to remember

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VoulezVouzCrochezAvecJACK · 19/05/2010 15:18

whatsallthis, I couldn't remind him, I forgot as well!
Normally we do a meal, I do pudding, he does main course and we get a dvd and some wine, oh waht a thrilling life

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moondog · 19/05/2010 15:20

i think it is odd (but kind) when other peopel remember too.
I never do-my dh reemembers more often than me, but not a lot.

sockmonkey · 19/05/2010 17:41

I remember DSis's (?) anniversary, only because DS was born on it.

meatntattypie · 19/05/2010 17:47

we never "do" anniversary.

im crap at remembering, dh is better than me.

10 years this year so may do something, get takaway or something, may even go out!

kittywise · 19/05/2010 17:51

It matters much more what goes on the other 355 days of the year tbh.

lefroglet · 19/05/2010 19:33

On our first anniversary my husband forgot to buy a card - he bought it in the supermarket when we went to get our shopping...whilst I was there. Made me quite sad, but I second what kittywise said. And he hasn't done it since.

lazarusb · 19/05/2010 22:42

We show the kids our wedding photos on our anniversary...and then count how many people have since died...we're cheerful like that!

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