to be mad at my mum over weight issues

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In all other respects she's great. But this has been bugging me for years (on and off) and the latest just pisses me off!

She has always had issues with my weight - even when I wasn't overweight. I have always stored my fat on my stomach, and when I was a teenager she asked me twice (in two weeks) if I was pregnant. Which I wasn't and couldn't have been as I wasn't in any relationship at the time. Which she knew.

The latest is, I have started a diet plan and regular exercise, and told her about it (thinking she would be pleased). A week later she tells me she is starting a diet and exercise plan. She asks me my weight. I told her I was 11 stone 6 after losing half a stone. She tells me that she is 11 stone 3 according to the scales, but she really thinks she is 11 stone dead. Fine. Then she says so what are your goals? So I told her I would like to lose weight before my next birthday, and my aim was to get down to 10 stone and take it from there. She said 'Oh, I'm trying to be 9 and a half stone'.

Why does she need to be so damned competitive about weight? AIBU?

some mums are like this .

I think mothers should NEVER berate their daughters about weight or body shape, the ones that do usually reflect their own body issues.

I would not talk to her about dieting if I were you, and wetblanket any conversation about body or weight.

What Riven said.

Don't allow her to make it into a competition.

Do you mean angry, or insane?

You are all right, I'll try not to engage with her on these issues. Is it wrong for me to start to feel a bit competitive too, and use that to keep me motivated... it genuinely is only as a result of her attitude, I promise!

WanderingPedant, the answer to your question, is "yes"

In someways I don´t get the problem tbh.
Yes it would have been nice if she´d just said "that´s great- good luck".
OTOH, her also deciding to lose weight has no bearing on the goals you have set yourself imo.

And if she´s competitive you knew she would react this way anyway?

There are some people that just have to make everything about one-upmanship games. Ignore it and either don't play or just have some fun with her. The KEY lesson is you have to make her go first- so how much did you lose this week mum? Oh, only 2 lbs, I lost 3... If she tries to make you say first- make a short deflecting comment like "Oh it was a tough week as Sainsbos didn't have any cottage cheese that I wanted" then straight to "how much did you lose then mum?" "Oh, I lost a half pound more...". She will soon pack it in.