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to think that Rihanna's rude boy should get it up and off my radio?

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NormalityBites · 19/05/2010 00:59

AIBU to feel a little bit sick every time this song comes on? It's just so wanna-be sexually aggressive on one hand, then singing 'love me love me' on the other. It is totally messed up and reminds me horribly of teenage bravado and vulnerability, but in all the wrong ways. There is something terribly grubby in the way it taunts and mocks. I hate it with a passion and do not think it should be played in the middle of the day with children listening - and I'm no prude and very open minded, honest. AIBU?

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BertieBotts · 19/05/2010 17:28

What frequency is 6 music on? Or is it only on DAB?

cupcakesandbunting · 19/05/2010 20:03

It's only on DAB. I bought my digital radio especially to listen to it

JennyPiccolo · 19/05/2010 20:11

you can get 6 music on freeview as well i think.

while i agree that tune is vile, i think stuff like that goes over kids' heads a bit, no? Or am i being horribly naive? Probs.

HairyToe · 19/05/2010 20:34

This stuff does my head in too. DD1 (6) sings along to anything she hears on the radio, tv, in school...impossible to keep it away from her but a lot of it totally inappropriate. I got the Lady Gaga cd for my birthday and had to confiscate it from dd's bedroom before she started singing "I like it rough". And much to his disgust I've now 'banned' Dh from watching music tv when the kids are around as most of the videos are so explicit and sexual.

BertieBotts · 19/05/2010 21:47

Yes, to be fair, I think it does go over their heads. I used to like S Club 7 and remember at about 13 suddenly realising that one of their song lyrics referred to sex and being shocked

But I suppose it's just a whole attitude which it's a bit creepy that they are aware of from a young age, I suppose.

lazarusb · 19/05/2010 22:33

I have had to stop my 9 year old singing Lily Allen (heard at a friend's) and Britney's 'Toxic'. I like some seriously filthy stuff but I don't want my DCs listening to it (though I've taken my 20 year old Ds to gigs of said filth mongers!)

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NormalityBites · 19/05/2010 22:33

I'm sure it does go over a lot of heads, but it doesn't go over mine, and it's so aggressive and the total opposite to what I honestly think sex should be about that it does make me feel kind of wrong inside. DD is too young to understand it (but old enough to sing it! ) I don't worry about her so much as I honestly wonder about the young teens ears it accosts....10-13 year olds who may well know exactly what it is about, internalise it and think that attitude in some way necessary/appropriate/admirable. Yes, I realise I'm vastly over simplifying here. But I think if I were a 12 year old boy hearing that song I'd be terrified of girls and sex forever more

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Heathcliffscathy · 19/05/2010 22:34

tis shit. agreed.

Bumbleconfusus · 19/05/2010 22:42

love this song...

MrsRhettButler · 19/05/2010 22:43
JennyPiccolo · 19/05/2010 22:44

yeah, i remember me and my teenage pals being disgusted when we realised what the spice girls '2 become 1' was about. EH NAW!

j0807bump · 19/05/2010 22:48

don't think its one of her better songs but i'm not really offended by it on in the day.

my DS is too young to get the lyrics (2.9) but he does say when lady gaga, jls and 'peas' come on the radio.

if he was older i may feel differently but prob just find a different station.

uncomfortable to think of 7/8 year old girls singing along though but do they understand?

Nattynar · 19/05/2010 23:00

I like the song, but completely agree that the lyrics aren't appropiate for young children given there context!

Also think the music videos are far too explicit for my liking, Lady Gaga is more or less naked in the majority of her videos. I'm seen more clothes on pole dancers & strippers and you don't seen programmes on that when children are around! And where are the naked attractive men! But that's another thread!

Having said that there were a few Spice Girl songs that were rude, and I was none the wiser until a friend and I were told off by her dad!!

prettyfly1 · 19/05/2010 23:01

I like the song but I am a woman in her twenties comfortable in herself and her sexuality.

If I had a daughter however I would not be happy with this being pushed at her and labelled "female independence" - its not - its using overt sexuality to sell records. Also I worry a bit about my boys and what they will think women exist for with the amount of overt sexual language and imagery available to them. Sigh.

prettyfly1 · 19/05/2010 23:02

so I guess I still think "ick" really.

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