to be annoyed at DH's mate for inviting himself round to our house?

[nightowl1]

We've recently moved house, still bags and boxes everywhere and all sleep deprived as 7 month old baby isn't really used to the new house yet. Both of us working too so it's extra hard work. Not yet had one evening where we've sat down together and relaxed.

This evening DH tells me his mate is called and is coming round for a drink in an hour. DH feels he needs a chance to relax and have an evening off with friend but I'm really annoyed that it's ruined our chance for a night together and that he barely gave me an hour's notice and left me to settle baby to sleep. Really fuming now and DH annoyed that I'm ignoring his mate!

It's not his mate that your annoyed with, is it?

It is his mate, he plays the hostess.

I suggest you go and have a soak in the bath, then go to bed with a book and a glass of wine/cocoa. Youve earned it.

It's both of them really! Just taking the mickey, I think

You are both right, but mainly you are tired. Do the bath thing.

YANBU...I have been very rude to DH's friends in the past because of DH's behaviour.

(Heaven help the one that came round immediately after DH said he didn't want any more DC, )

'Heaven help the one that came round immediately after DH said he didn't want any more DC'

Mental image of you locking DH in the shed and his mate in the bedroom.

I expect you are both very stressed and tired. Imo you should do as QS suggests.

Realistically it is one night only. (unless this is an AIBU by stealth)

Could you ask for a compromise, e.g. just a few drinks and friend to leave at a reasonable hour?

I'd be unhappy if it was the other way round, i.e if my friend called me and invited herself round and I hadn't had a proper social night in or out for weeks.

meant to add "and dh was angry/rude to friend/horrid about it"

I would have a long bubble bath with a glass of wine and go to bed early.

yabu

it's one night

let your dh chiull out with his mate

then sat night go round your mates and leave him to it

I think you should have a bath as suggested and try to de-stress. It's one night and it's not as if you moved today.

Ouch, I would be annoyed too tbh

You need to have a little give and take in relationships.....today you're giving, another day you'll be taking...

LOL, Goblinchild!

Thanks for all the advice... still bit stressed by DH's and mate's behaviour (he definitely has had more take than give recently!!) but hopefully bath and glass of wine will make everything seem good again!

great attitude well done you takes some credit