I'll probably get recognised from this post. Oh well...
DS goes to a mum and toddler group on a monday morning. It's run by a lady who has a lot to do with the church that the group is attached to, I don't think that she has any formal childcare qualification, she has just been running that group for many years. There is no real structure to the group, you just turn up with LOs and they do their own thing whilst the mums chat and what-not. It's generally a nice little group but two things happened today that really cheesed me off and I don't think I want to go back...
First off... another little boy comes with his grandma (who is good friends with the lady who runs the group) who cares for him whilst his mum is at work. He is a really angry and aggressive child and practically every child at this group has been on the receiving end of one of his outbursts. He screams and lashes out a lot but his grandma is reluctant to discipline him because he's not her child. Today DS and this little boy were playing on some toy cars and both were being a bit rough and bumping into each other but they were both laughing and enjoying it so they got on with it. Then suddenly, this little boy starts screaming and shouting because DS carried on the game. Then this boy's gran came over and told DS off for upsetting him. I was a bit , won't tell your own grandchild off because you're not his parent but you'll tell mine off, but didn't say anything....
Then about twenty minutes later, it got to singing time (the kids sit in a circle and sing a song but some LOs prefer to carry on playing and they are allowed to) but DS wanted to carry on playing on the cars with another boy and another boy was playing with the toys still. DS had been playing on the car for a good few minutes then the woman who runs the group decided to get up, pull DS off the car and tell him to stop playing because everyone else was singing (even though everyone else wasn't singing) DS didn't understand what he'd done wrong because she lets the ones who don't want to sing carry on playing usually,so DS cried and was really upset. I stood up, put DS's coat on and told him we were leaving.
I was really upset that twice my DS got told off when in my opinion he didn't do anything to deserve it And if he did do something wrong, surely they should have told me and let me sort it? The amount of times that that kid has lashed out and DS and I';ve smiled at his gran and said "don't worry about it" because I felt sorry for her, then I feel like the group leader was sharp with DS because I think that this boy's gran probably told her that DS upset her grandchild. I don't want to go back now because I am so about it.
Sorry for the long post but AIBU?