Bloody work colleague!!!!

[victoriascrumptious]

When pregnant with DD2 my work colleague (not she is NOT a friend) was eavesdropping on a private whispered conversation I was having with my line manager at a party where I was telling said line manager that I was pregnant again. This colleague then proceeded to announce my pregancy to the rest of the office whereas there were specific heath reasons why I did not want this pregnancy to be public knowledge (genetic disorder) I was furious at the time but I let it go without saying anything.

Fast forward 12 months and I am planning on moving abroad as dh has a new job. This same woman's mother works as a secretary for the same organisation as my dh and so her mother found out about it. Mother apparently gave her daughter (my work colleague) specific instructions not to say anything to anyone in my work. She was also warned by two of my closest friends not to say anything. Again there are specific reasons why this information is private at this time.

Yet again this stupid bitch has taken it upon herself to inform the rest of the office of my personal business placing me in a really awkward situation at work which has potentially pretty dire financial and personal ramifications for me.

I really really don't get it as I have never been anything but civil to her. She appears not to have any sort of problem with me but thinks nothing of spreading peoples very personal business around the place.

So, if you're reading this KJ you gobby boring fat fuck you ARE BEING UNREASONABLE better pray that i'm a nicer person than you with regard to the way I handle personal and potentially damaging information about you.

of course she is unreasonable.

why is it some people have no life of their own so go discussing other people's private lives.
I believe in what goes around comes around, but just get pissed off that I'm not around to see it!!

Hope everything works out for you.

Report her to HR - this is damaging and distressing. Your DH should report her mum to his HR department too, even though she told gobby cow to keep her mouth shut, mother of gobby cow should have said nothing. Hence we know where she has inherited her gobby cow gene!

Hopefully you will move to a place where the only gobby cows exist in fields, chewing on the cud

I would complain to your colleague's mother's HR dept/boss about lack of confidentiality about company business, better still get your DH to do it if he's willing. The mother will be able to vent her spleen on her daughter for not keeping her mouth shut in a way you never could. (Machiavellian? Me?)

Seems like a bit of a bitch.

What Bran said. I'd be so angry with that.

I agree with fireup. The mother must be in breach of confidentiality and therefore if your husband reported her then she could get sacked. I'd do it.
As for the malicious cow that you work with I'd have a quiet word in her ear and remind her that you could screw her over. Even if you wouldn't, I'd say it and watch what she says.

Some people are like that because their jealous.
Sorry for you but I hope you get to do what you want and are happy!

Thanks everyone. I'm so mad right now i'm planning all sorts of painful revenges. I'll probably have run out of steam by tommmorow though

Not sure whether I have the stomach for getting DH to report the mother as apparently she is quite a nice woman and according to dh has been helpful to him in the past

Poo in her desk drawer. Gobby cow.

Actually, I like Gerbil's plan better than mine.

She might well be nice but there should be consequences to her actions especially if it makes life difficult for you and your family.
If she's telling her daughter that sort of info what else is she sharing....?

Colleague's mother needs to be reported to HR. How is that in anyway within the realms of appropriate/professional behaviour?

If she's nice and your DH doesn't want to get her into trouble then perhaps you could put the wind up her on the quiet.

Phone her and say that her daughter has put you in a difficult position. You sincerely hope that no further information will be leaked as it puts you in an awkward position with your company.

The mother should still tear a few strips off the daughter, and with any luck, not feed her any more info.

Bran, I hope I never p*ss you off.

Were you on the Sopranos ROFL

I love the way your OP has 4 paras of nice calm reasonable explanation then suddenly you GO FOR HER at the end! YANBU of course.

I think some people just can't resist the attention they get when they have a snippet of gossip to spread around - however damaging they are being. Both her and her numpty mother are way out of order.

Quattro, I was just thinking that you and I could probably run the world as a very tight ship through fear alone.

Your DH owes it to everyone else in his company to deal with this, there was no reason for her mother to tell her the news. Get him to tell HR about this. As a secretary, she may well be party to a vast amount of confidential information, nice or otherwise, she's not doing her job properly, and HR need to know she needs to be watched. Possibly limited access to that sort of info until she can been seen to be trusted.

As for the bitchface in your office - I suggest you complain to your HR about her.

Oh fuckit i'm going to pull all her photos off her facebook (publicly accessable what a fucking moron) and photoshop her head on to the body of some brazillian fart porn model and post it all on a website entitled www.(hername).com which I will purchase with the money I would have contributed to her baby fund

Yes that's what i'll do AS GOD IS MY WITNESS

That sounds like fun. Make sure it can't be traced back to you and that it includes a variety of tastes in porn models (ie very old, very overweight, lots of piercings etc).

However, you and/or your DH should probably also deal with the mother issue otherwise there might be other unwanted information heading towards your office in the future.

Just a thought but could you add a little linky here to said 'Facebook' page. I am sure that there are lots of mumsnetters who would like to become her 'friend'

Deny deny deny. If she mentions it again at work, just laugh at her and say you know her mum told her that because your dh's company were worried about how rumours were getting about and NOW YOU ALL KNOW. It'll scare the shit out of her, and possibly her mum.

Also do the photoshop thing, and for heaven's sake don't contrib to her baby fund.

Oh and link here to the www.(hername).com once you've done it