to think my mums being unreasonable actually!

[biddysmama]

wow. i'm on a roll today

ds is being confirmed next week, we let him chosse where we go afterwatds and he wants pizza hut (we dont eat out very often)

i told my mum and she said she'll only come if its a 'proper meal' and told ds who is now upset because he was looking forward to 'his day'

should i make ds change it or tell her what a shame it is she will miss it then?

Tell he it's a shame she won't be joining you. This is not about her.

Tell her "oh dear, well, never mind. We'll miss you, but it's X's day and his choice where to go"

Bloody nerve of her attempting to manipulate you like that!

YANBU. It's his day, his choice. My inlaws grimaced a bit when my DD chose Wagamama's for her birthday but they did grin and bear it. Perhaps print off a menu from pizza hut and give it to your mum ... she maybe just doesn't like pizza and thinks there's nothing else. Even so, think she's not being very considerate.

That is really mean of her....how selfish

agree with mathanxiety and hecate

he's a wee boy , it is his special day and he wants pizza hut. which is actually vastly improved these days.

is your mum always this self centred?

my parents would not choose to eat at pizza hut et al , but understand a young child thinks it is the height of haute cuisine and would eat there if the occasion demanded it

She is being unreasonable, tell her you are definately going there and if she wants to miss out and upset her dgs on his special day then that is her decision.

Pity she thinks more about what is 'proper' and not enough about her grandson. Enjoy the meal without her

tell her she's welcome not to go to the meal. DS's day, his call.

Your mum is being incredibly mean, selfish, and unreasonable. I would carry on with what your DS wants regardless of what your mum wants, if she CHOOSES to miss out on it that's her problem.

Is pizza not a proper meal then?

yep, say "oh well, we'll miss you but never mind, we can still have a good time without you." .

lol lulumam...this is the same woman that after i said i didnt want her at ds's birth showed up and barged in, telling me what i wanted and teling the mw i wanted things i didnt want, then when i told her i didnt want her at dds said "you tried that last time, didnt work did it?" and laughed!
she didnt manage it that time tho

she sounds like a bitch. Time to stand up to her me thinks.

tell her there is pasta and salads there, your mum should realise its your DS day, his choice

actually I wouldn't say "sorry you won't be joining us" because tbh I wouldn't be.

Pizza hut isn't that bad anyway. My ds loves going there.

If you overrule the poor kid, he will be very upset, and you will be in trouble the next time he wants to go back on a promise!

at her turning up at your ds's birth. Just go to Pizza Hut and forgot about her!

Oh how rude, DO NOT make your DS change it.

Wow Biddy, she sounds...interesting? My own mother is very very overbearing at times too, though if she's shown up at my DS' birth I would have jabbed her with something sharp.

I would go with the advice above. "Oh well, it's DS' day and that's what he chose. We'll see you another time then," and leave it at that. TBH she sounds like a toddler throwing a tantrum.

tell your mam to get stuffed - its not about her the selfish git - has she usually got absolutley no manners?

I love pizzahut tell her to fark right off and I hope you and DS have a lovely day

oh my god !! she sounds unbearable and intolerable

i am aghast she barged into your son's birth!!!

i would have found it hard to move on from that

i would make a point of doing stuff at places sh edoes not like, so as to spend as least time with her as possible