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to feel a bit creeped out by my neighbour

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Tanga · 15/05/2010 19:54

Got home from shopping today to find a note from our neighbours.

We have a frosty relationship with them as when we first moved in he had a habit of peering over the fence and suddenly making comments to me or the DC's. I found it quite disconcerting (it's a 7ft fence on our side but his garden is split level so he could stand on the high part and look into ours) specially if I was sunbathing, and then he started swearing in front of the children etc, so we took to ignoring him.

So, the note is quite terse, saying they want us to move some building materials we've put against their wall. Fair enough, DH says he will put a gap in so the air can circulate. It's only a few paving stones and bricks ready to make us a patio.

Thing is, though, that section of our garden isn't visible from their house or garden. At all. It's tucked away down between the two buildings and in fact that was why we selected that area for our shed - so have they been in our garden? Would anyone else be creeped out by this?

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cyb · 15/05/2010 19:56

Would another neighbour have told him? Can it be seen by anyone else? TBH what you do in your garden or lean anywhere is YOUR business.; I would ignore him

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 15/05/2010 19:56

Well, can they get into your garden?

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Tanga · 15/05/2010 20:27

That bit of our garden can't be seen by any of our neighbours - unless they were hovering above our house in a helicopter! It's a sort of triangular gap between the two houses - at the top end of the triangle there's a low wall and a wooden fence and that faces out onto the front.

They could get in the garden but they'd have to walk up the drive, open a gate, walk right along the side of the house and into the back garden, then right across the back garden and round our house. You couldn't wander by and see it, you'd have to be doing it on purpose. The only other way would be to scale the fence at the front and climb onto our shed roof!

I feel like I'm going mad!

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GeekOfTheWeek · 15/05/2010 20:46

Would be sending dh round to ask WTF.

DetectivePotato · 15/05/2010 21:02

What the building stuff is leaning against a wall that you both share? Tell him to go to hell, or just ignore him. I wouldn't move it. Especially if, like you said its not even somewhere that can really be seen.

MadamDeathstare · 15/05/2010 21:08

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TootaLaFruit · 15/05/2010 21:24

You could tell him you'll move them, then not, and see if he mentions it again. If he does then I think you can outright ask him how he knows. Keep it breezy, like "oh yes, we haven't got round to doing that yet... hang on, but how do you know? Have you been in our garden?" (acting classes offered at no extra cost)

KickButtowski · 15/05/2010 21:25

Send a sweet note back saying, I am sorry, I have no idea what materials you are talking about. Maybe then psycho neighbour will be forced to admit how he knows about it.

ilikeyoursleeves · 15/05/2010 21:35

That is a bit creepy yes, reminds me of a neighbour over the road from us at our old house who DH saw wandering about in our garden (!). He was looking for us to tell us to get our bin in or something- he rang the doorbell and said to DH 'Is that you just up then?' about 11am, that was the first time we had ever spoken to him! There was no need for him to be in our garden but DH was too shocked to say anything at the time. That was the first of many encounters with him, he used to hassle us if we parked our car outside our own house! Needless to say we moved pretty damn quick (the whole street was full of similar types).

I'd do what Tootalafruit said, say you'll move them but don't do it then if he says anything you'll know he's been trespassing.

You have my sympathies, we hated living next to creepy neighours!

TheCrackFox · 15/05/2010 21:49

Yes it is a bit creepy. I wouldn't move it but then I am quite petty.

lollopops · 16/05/2010 00:26

google street view

hmc · 16/05/2010 01:12

I think - ignore, and let it go away. Don't feed the crazies!

Cogitoergosum · 16/05/2010 01:16

Google streetview isn't in real time though, so unless the paving slabs have been there for a long time then it's unlikely that's how they found out about them.

Maybe he has distance visualising abilities, or perhaps a native american spirit guide?

thisismyclone · 16/05/2010 06:19

Agree with DetectivePotato (great name BTW ).

If its leaning on your side of the wall, then I wouldn't move it. Why is it a problem if it's in your garden?

radstar · 16/05/2010 07:13

People are funny aren't they? Our neighbour knocked our door to say he had moved, the few its of building materials and rubbish down the side of our house that were leaning on his wall. Ok it's his wall but does it really matter? they wren't doing any harm, we would have moved them eventually. Thing was he did it all in his work suit! why not just ask us to do it if he were that bothered?

porcamiseria · 16/05/2010 09:41

ask him how the hell he has seen it? tell him that its very odd that he is peeking into your garden, say you will move it but if you EVER catch him peeping again you will keep a diary and contact police

fight fire with fire

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