to wish someone would make me a cup of tea?

[Dinkytinky]

bit of a mememe moan sorry,
I'm just fed up, like everyone else i work really hard and do cooking/cleaning/food shopping/errands etc etc.
more often than we go to others they come to us so i'm always running around after in laws/friends and cooking getting in food etc they like.
Dp's a bit useless, is apparently oblivous to mess and need to do things. Never cooks dinner unless it's microwaved/ a huge production. In laws tell me what to do when over 'put the bacon under the grill now dear' 'i'll have my cup of tea now sweetheart'.
My job's pretty menial and horrible as i'm paying my way through a phd and i've suddenly broken out in eczema (first time ever!).

I'm geniunly considering making an appointment at the hairdressers just so someone will ask me if I want a cup of tea!!!

puts kettle on

Sorry you are feeling so tired and taken for granted. It does sound like your DP could do a bit more. Can you tell him in no uncertain terms that you would like a bath run for you and a cup of tea to magically appear at least once a week. Not too much to ask if you are working, do lion's share of housework etc.

But, if In Laws tell you what to do, why can't you just say "no"?

aw thanks, you're all so lovely, please will you come and live in my house?

over my dead body - I don't feel I can really, just because they're my guests. I do put my foot down sometimes - last week MiL said 'oh dinky, i do wish you'd tidy up a bit before we came round' after finding some wagon wheel wrappers/hair bobbles etc down the side of the sofa and I told her that if her son pulled his finger out then the house would be about 50% tidier and flounced off. my house is deffo not dirty btw!

Andie I think thats a good idea, but somehow (tell me off if i'm being picky) it's never as good if you've asked for it!?

i know this sounds really pathetic but sometimes i just feel invisible

Dinky - I soooo understand how you feel! I'm single parent with DD (2.9) but work full time. Sometimes feel like all I want is for someone else to get me a cup of tea. When DD's daddy is here, the first thing he does is make me a cup of tea as he knows this is the way to my heart!

It's just having someone else do something for you, isn't it?

awww belle exactly!
I even used to have really cool taste in films, all arty and critically acclaimed stuff but now all i want is to watch romantic comedies with huge romantic hollywood gestures!
amicissima - brilliant idea!and if they ask i'll just tell them i have cystitus mwahaha!

I think you MIL is outrageous. I am handing you a large gin and tonic as I think you need it more than tea!
I think some husbands need very clear instructions regarding what you want them to do. I'd certainly pass on IL requests to him, saying "DH, your mum wants a cup of tea. Can you do that while I do X?"

I'd be tempted to sneak out and go get a big cuppa from a cafe, and wander back an hour later.

Poor you. Come round my hovel and I'll make tea for you.

saslou - another good idea!thankyou! i'm glad i'm not the only one who thinks that about MiL - to think i never used to understand MiL jokes!
amicissima -hahahaha i'm going to get that put on a tshirt.. oohh you've both just reminded me how much I love G+T with a good twist of lime
shaz - thanks for the offer!i don't suppose you live in manchester lol!
I think i've been offered for hot and cold beverages here than i have been in RL all year :D

LOL at IL wanting you to tidy. My ex MIL was awful for doing this. I worked she didn't.
We use to take ex p brother out with DS to park, beach etc at weekends as she was too busy to do it because she had to clean. The day she moaned about my flat being untidy when she picked up her DS I was a bit

I'd maybe suggest going there if your 'untidy' house makes them uncomfortable IME this will work as when I suggested it to ex MIL she nearly passed out with the idea of having a child leaving fingerprints in her house!

sending you a freshly brewed cuppa as I've just put the kettle on while DS in bath!!

'i do wish you'd tidy up a bit' !!!!! Outrageous. She needs to get back in her box, pronto!